Every day we wake up is another chance to have an impact on our lives and the lives of others. With each thought we think, each word we say, and with each action we decide to take, WE CREATE. Our thoughts, words, and deeds have an impact. We get to choose if these things will have a positive or a negative impact.
IMPACT COMES FROM INFLUENCE.
IMPACT is like when we throw a rock into the middle of a lake and watch the ripple effect. The size of the rock we throw is the level of impact we have. The larger the rock, the more expansive the impact.
To influence someone enough to have a positive impact on another human being is to add value to that person’s life.
I believe this statement to be true: “A single sentence, spoken at just the right time, could change someone’s life forever.“
As I look back in my life, there are many times that a single sentence, spoken at just the right time, completely altered the trajectory I would live my life according to, from that moment on. I am so grateful for the wise words of so many, who have impacted and empowered me in positive ways.
What are single sentences or short discussions you have had with someone in your own life that you now realize changed you perception, shifted your perspective, and altered your reality forever, for the better?
Today I will be intentional about influencing others, with the end goal in mind of having a positive, creative impact upon them. I will say or do something for someone else which will add value to their life. Instead of condemning or criticizing, I will compliment, encourage, and empower.
Dr. Myles Monroe and the incredible Jim Rohn, describes HOW to best become more influential. ANYTHING is learnable. EVERYTHING is a practicable skill. ANY of us can choose to be EVEN BETTER, every day of our existence. Check out ANY content from them on YouTube or anywhere else, and prepare to be impacted and altered through their teachings.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
Some of the best advice I have ever heard on quitting came from a highly successful, world-renowned gymnast, Nastia Liuken, who’s advice to all young people is:
“Think Bigger. Work Harder.”
A really great idea she was raised with was this: BEFORE you quit anything, especially after a bad day, keep going until you have a GOOD day. THEN, and only then, give yourself the permission to quit that thing, if you still want to.
This was a rule her mother required of her. When Nastia would have an especially grueling, difficult, disappointing day, she would come home exhausted, frustrated, and angry, and tell her mother she wanted to quit gymnastics. Her mother would tell her that any day of her life she would let her quit, except for that day. Then she would repeat this request:
“Before you quit, you must keep going-just until you have one more good day. If you still feel like quitting at that point, I will let you quit.” She had many of those especially grueling, difficult, disappointing days, but she never did quit. This rule her mother came up with was a helpful tool which aided her in her successes and accomplishments. It helped her keep going and kept quitting in perspective.
Reminder to self: Be engaged in the relentless pursuit of Personal Development! If you decide that quitting something is absolutely necessary, don’t do it out of hopelessness, frustration, anger, fear, exhaustion or resentment. Wait until you are having a GOOD day, and if you still feel the desire to quit, do it with the knowledge that it is because you are advancing in another direction, and the thing you are quitting isn’t in alignment with what you want to accomplish.
DO NOT MAKE A PERMANENT DECISION BASED UPON A TEMPORARY EMOTION.
Today I will decide to keep doing the difficult, challenging, hard things until the day I enjoy them and see the benefit that comes from doing them. If I still want to stop doing what I am doing at that point, I will think about course-correcting, and advancing in another direction. I am relentless.
The interview on Impact Theory, which contains the incredible story of Nastia Liuken, can be seen here:
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
In a world full so many distractions, I think it is increasingly important we choose wisely what we will intentionally focus on each and every day. The advertising industry, which spends TRILLIONS of dollars a YEAR to reprogram our minds to benefit the bank accounts of OTHERS, wants to constantly draw away our attention, energy, and our focus in order to instill within us the desire to give our money over to them for products we don’t even need, with the promise that the purchase will make us feel HAPPY, PEACEFUL, and CONTENT. They constantly instill within us wants and desires, with false promises of feelings of completeness and wholeness to be achieved, just after spending our money. They write logarithms and programs, amassing data and using our personal information, with which to better know how to program our minds and to constantly bombard us, to make us think we are unhappy or unfulfilled without their products, as they make false promises that we will feel whole if we just buy what they are selling.
EVERYTHING is an inside job-ESPECIALLY things like happiness, peace, contentment, wholeness, appreciation, validation, and acceptance.
If we focus on our actual needs, as well as the needs of others, instead of our wants and desires, we can grow and improve upon some of the MOST important things in this life: Our minds, our bodies, and our souls. When we shift our focus from wants to needs, we tend to go within, we begin to heal naturally and easily, and we begin to live a healthier, more meaningful, and more purpose-filled existences, which serves and benefits EVERYONE.
WE ARE CREATORS, but when we are distracted, we can’t create as effectively.
There are some very important questions I believe we can ask ourselves often:
What will help me grow and improve my mind? What content do I personally want to focus on today in order to do this?
How can I improve my body? How can I transform my body into a naturally more healthy version of itself? How can I improve my diet in order to naturally improve my chemical and hormonal levels? What should I choose to eat in order to accomplish my own, personal goals? What books can I read about these topics? What videos can I watch that will help me focus on and improve my knowledge on these topics?
How can I grow my soul? How can I add value to my life? How can I add value to the lives of others?
In this Age of Information that we have been living in, a lack of knowledge about ANYTHING is a choice.
I think it is important to remember, that as we work towards self-improvements, PROGRESS over PERFECTION is an idea we can keep in the forefront of our minds. Perfection is overwhelming, unattainable, and impossible. Perfection is always eluding us. When we seek perfection, we set ourselves up for suffering and feelings of inadequacy and failure. PROGRESS, on the other hand, is empowering, motivating, and energizing. Constantly seeking to progress allows us to LEARN and to never experience failure, but rather CONTINUOUS UPGRADES.
It will be the small, daily incremental, seemingly meaningless yet consistent repetitious habits we form, that will later be recognized as our path to GREATNESS, and living a life well-lived.
No matter who we are, or how far we have come in life, we can always do better. There is always room for improvement and progression, and there always will be.
PROGRESS IS LIMITLESS, WHILE THE IDEA OF, OR THE NEED FOR PERFECTION, IS DESTRUCTIVE.
This is one of the greatest gifts that this life has to offer: We can get stronger. We can get wiser. We can get better.
Today I will ask these questions of myself and make a list of my answers: HOW CAN I IMPROVE MY MIND? HOW CAN I IMPROVE MY HEALTH, AND MY BODY? HOW CAN I IMPROVE MY INNER WORLD? I will do what I need to do, as often as I need to do it, in order to become the best possible version of myself I possibly can, remembering that this is a daily effort and opportunity. Life is a marathon, not a race, and the scenery is EXQUISITE!!!
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
Have you ever tossed a rock into the water and watched as ripples form in perfect circles and travel outward? That one action leads to many, long reaching effects. Our lives are like this. Each thought we think, each word we speak and each action we take has an energetic ripple effect. That effect touches the lives of those around us, directly, and the lives of others, indirectly, through those around us.
Even if we don’t realize it, even if we don’t intend it, our thoughts, words, and actions effect the lives of others. This, in turn, can cause others to create their own ripple effects. When we share positivity, optimism, and creativity with others, they tend to do the same things with the people in their lives. When we are negative, condescending, critical, or judgmental, that energy spreads like ripples, as well.
We absorb the energies and feelings of others we are close to, whether it is closeness in proximity, or closeness in love-even though the beloved may be far away. Others absorb OUR energies in the same manner. This is why the teaching, BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD, is so deeply important. One small shift in our thinking and perspectives may then trigger the chemical and hormonal cascade needed to create a higher level of thinking, speaking, and doing, which in turn triggers a series of events in OUR lives and in the lives of those around us, automatically then triggering similarly related thoughts, feelings, energies and events in the lives of the people THEY know. Everything effects everything, and though we may be incapable of controlling anything or anyone but ourselves, our “self” is certainly capable of influencing, impacting, and empowering others.
One, small act of kindness can alter the entire trajectory of another’s existence. One, well-placed, caring thought or idea, planted as a seed in the mind garden of another, may impact someone three generations from now in a profound way, completely altering not just THAT persons life, but the lives of everyone they know, changing the world for the better, forever more.
We can live in fear, or we can live coming from a place of LOVE. One way usually results in unhappiness, darkness, anxiety, depression, being easily controlled by others, and hopelessness, while the other way usually results in creativity, enlightenment, joy, kindness, self-acceptance, self-love, and HEALING.
It is useful to experience these polar opposite results for ourselves in life, so we can decide what we want more of and what we want less of, and realize for ourselves which actions produce the desired results. Living a life of contrasting experiences is a GIFT.
WE ARE 100% RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR THOUGHTS, BELIEFS, ATTITUDES, ACTIONS, AND FEELINGS. These things are NOBODY else’s job. What energies we produce and project onto others is fully within our control.
Our actions, words, habits, practices, perspectives, philosophies, and teachings, will cause ripple effects that will echo throughout the eternities to come, effecting centuries of generations. The level of healing we experience in this life will be energetically, vibrationally, mentally, emotionally, genetically, and physically passed down to our posterity.
It is time for us ALL to begin to TRULY heal, causing the necessary ripples that will empower others to do the same.
It all begins within US. Are we capable of loving, accepting, appreciating, and healing OURSELVES? Until we can do this better for OURSELVES, we render ourselves useless and incapable of teaching OTHERS how to do it for THEMSELVES. I think we can ALL agree that this is ESPECIALLY important for parents and parents-to-be to remember and work on.
Today I will remember that each thought, word, and action I take has an effect on myself and others. I will choose positivity, optimism, and creativity. I will choose LOVE. I will choose HEALING.
The ripples we create in this life will echo throughout the eternities to come, living on through generations. What results will your ripples cause?
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
Thinkers are fun. When thinkers think, things can get interesting. Deep thinkers have always existed throughout time. They are the ones who have come up with all of the quotes/beliefs/thoughts/programs which have lasted throughout the centuries, and we still use them to guide us and adopt them into our belief systems and our lives, in order to upgrade, and become a better version of our “small s” selves, or the WHO we identify as while in these bodies.
Talkers are also fun. We all love to listen to a good story. People who have a wide range of words in their vocabulary are articulate, and really take the time to craft a good story, putting things in a way which anyone and everyone can relate to, are particularly interesting and entertaining. We all love to be around a good story teller.
Doers get things done. They think about something, and they do it. They think about something, talk about it and realize the thing they are thinking and talking about isn’t going to get done unless they make it happen. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, and RESULTS DON’T LIE.
There are some who are particularly good at one of these three things. Some people choose to be good at two of these three things. It is the people who practice doing all three of these things really well, who are happy, creative, fulfilled, wealthy in all areas of their lives, and successful. Why is that? Why is it they are able to be so efficient in all three areas and have such deep, meaningful connections with others all along the way?
I believe it is through practicing living a life of honesty, authenticity, congruence, and in alignment with what one’s purpose and TRUE identity is, that a life of greatness is achieved. It is difficult to do this consistently, especially at first, but when living in this manner is repeated and practiced, it becomes habituated, and is eventually how certain people identify. They are able to look in the mirror, each day, and say, “I say what I mean, and I mean what I say, and I DON’T SAY IT MEAN. I am honest. I am authentic. I live in congruence with what I think and believe, and I prove it with my words and actions. I consistently do what I say I am going to do, and this makes me predictable, reliable, and dependable. I live in alignment with my purpose.”
Activities which are practiced daily eventually become habits. Repetition begets MASTERY. Doing ANYTHING of a high difficulty level, often enough, eventually becomes easy. When we consistently do our best, our best consistently gets better. The difficult things we get better at through repetition, is entirely up to us.
Today I will practice being a thinker, talker, AND a doer. I will practice and use these skills to create deeper, more meaningful relationships and to become a better, more effective version of myself. I know that by doing so I will add value to my life and to the lives of those around me.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
Some people are masters at time management. The more efficiently we manage our time, the more efficient we can become in our personal lives. Creating and enjoying efficiency in one area of our lives benefits us, by default, in ALL areas of our lives. Making good use of every second, every minute, and every hour of each day, ensures we will make the most of each day. Those days add up into months, which quickly become years.
Every minute matters. Every second counts.
Sometimes, the best use of out time is the time we pass being present with those we love.
A helpful tool to experiment with is a personal time audit. For a day, or a week, or for however long we choose, we can keep track of the exact time we spend on certain activities throughout the day. We can record it on a piece of paper, or get serious about it and buy a little notebook and name it the Time Audit Journal. We can then calculate a daily average of exactly how long we spend on certain activities. The more honest we are about it with ourselves, the more helpful this tool is. We can record time spent eating, time spent sleeping, time spent watching television or on electronics, time spent talking with others on the phone or in person, time spent at work, etc.
It is helpful to know EXACTLY where our time is going each day and figure out ways we want to spend more time on the activities which will help us accomplish the life, the wealth, the feelings, the enjoyment, the pleasure, and the meaningfulness we want in our lives. When we choose to control and designate our time, we have more opportunities to control and enjoy a more fulfilling, pleasurable, meaningful future. It’s a fun experiment to try, even for a little while. It really brings perspective to our day and how we are choosing to spend our time and live out our day.
WE CREATE OUR HABITS, THEN OUR HABITS CREATE OUR LIVES.
If we are currently unhappy with the results of our life, we can take a look at the habits we have. When we complete a Time Study, or keep a Time Journal, it is easy to see which habits have created our current circumstances. HABITS ARE SOMETHING WE CAN CHANGE ANY TIME WE WANT TO.
Multi-tasking can be extremely beneficial. Sometimes we can add activities to things we have to do, like listening to lectures, interviews, and podcasts while we cook, clean, or do laundry. We can listen to books or podcasts while in the car driving to work, or even while we work. There are always things we can do to make better use of our time, if we so choose.
Multi-tasking has the potential to help us not only add value to our lives, but also to the lives of those around us. Multi-tasking has the potential to make us more valuable, by making us a better version of ourselves.
Helpful questions we can all ask ourselves: Are there times throughout the day I want to improve on? What would be the value in spending more time doing things I love and less time doing things I hate? What are some things throughout the day I can do while multi-tasking to make my day more enjoyable and beneficial?
Time is our most valuable commodity. We can’t buy more. We don’t know when we will run out of it. I think it is important for each of us to make the most of our time doing the things we love, with the people we love, before that time runs out.
Today I will do a personal time audit and see exactly how much time I am spending on certain activities, and exactly where my time and energy is going. If I think it may be beneficial, I will extend this time audit in order to be more mindful of where all of my time is being spent and come up with a plan for a more beneficial, valuable, daily schedule in order to create and enjoy an even more beautiful life.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
Imagine a large, 6-foot tall, glass container, with a circumference of 8 feet, full of nasty, muddy, black water. It’s in the middle of a green, grass field, on a beautiful, sunny day. We have the goal of making the water clear, pure, and drinkable again. What would happen if we put a teaspoon of clear water into it? What would happen if we put a gallon of water into it? Would it be clear, pure, and drinkable again?
No! We would literally have to stick a powerful fire hose into the container in order to DISPLACE the black water with clear water. To make it drinkable, clear, and pure enough to give water from it to those we love, we would probably run the hose into it, on full-blast, long after the black, dark, poisonous, disgusting, muddy water was replaced.
We can form the analogy of this large, 6-foot tall, glass container, with a circumference of 8 feet, full of poisonous, black water, to our minds. After years and years of allowing our minds to be bombarded with the news, advertisements, negativity, anger, bitterness, resentment, destructive content, and pessimism, our minds may not be as clean and pure as they could be. What comes out of us may damage those we love. We encounter so many distractions in a single day that can muddy our minds and poison our souls. These distractions continuously and consistently draw our focus away from what might be more beneficial and valuable for us to focus on.
It is becoming increasingly important for each of us to accept personal responsibility for our minds and our thoughts, and take back control! It is a decision we have to face every, single day. Will we allow our minds to be controlled by outside forces that are perfectly comfortable with turning our minds into something full of poisons, making them muddy, and black, or will we bombard our minds with something clear, clean, pure, and useful to us in our pursuit of personal development, and towards the achievement of our goals and the creation of the lives we want?
We all have something in our minds that is dark, muddy, and poisonous. Will we let the ones we love drink from that source every day, or will we choose to continuously pump clear, pure, helpful, uplifting, inspiring, motivational, useful materials into our minds, through a huge hose on full-blast, in order to truly benefit the ones we love and add value to their lives and ours?
What comes out of us, and spills into the lives of those around us, is what is inside us.
The choice is ours, and the time is now.
Today, if I haven’t already, I will put a daily, consistent plan in place to bombard my brain with the content I know will be useful and valuable to myself and those I love. I will focus on that and let the rest of the content be displaced.
Listening to podcasts or books is FREE, and I have found it to be an EXCELLENT source of self improvement. Absorbing the wisdom and experiences of others is an excellent way to pass time. For a few great podcasts, go to the YouTube search engine, and type IMPACT THEORY, HEALTH THEORY, WOMEN OF IMPACT, THE LEWIS HOWES SHOW, ED MYLETT, or THE TIM FERRISS SHOW.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is everything!
I think one of the most incredible and empowering beliefs that anyone can implement into their own belief system, and benefit a great deal from, comes to us through the teachings of Tony Robbins:
When we expect something from someone else, we create a situation in which there is a possibility for disappointment, anger, bitterness, contempt and frustration. We get caught up in a destructive cycle, creating a day, week, and eventually a life of disappointment, anger, frustration., bitterness, resentment, and rage. When we expect more from ourselves, it comes from a place of re-creation. We can’t control others, but we can control ourselves, and PROGRESS EQUALS HAPPINESS.
When we appreciate someone for who they are, the things they say and do, and the value they add, accepting them FULLY just as they are, we create a situation in which we will get even more of that. We get caught up in a creative cycle, creating a life of meaning, connection, happiness, peace, and positivity. The same is true with self-appreciation. It becomes important to pay attention to what we are thinking about and what we are focusing on, all day long, because we become what we think about, and we attract more of what we focus on and WHAT WE ARE. Thoughts are electrical, but FEELINGS ARE MAGNETIC, and the way we feel magnetizes and attracts everything similar to what we are feeling. WE ATTRACT WHAT WE FEEL ABOUT.
While expectations may be considered premeditated resentments, it must be said that it is incredibly beneficial for each of us to have healthy boundaries or rules, and be clear with others on exactly what our personal rules and boundaries are. This offers others the opportunity to respect our rules and boundaries, thereby showing and proving respect and love towards us. It also offers others the opportunity to test our rules and boundaries, by playing the role of devil’s advocate, poking and prodding to see what they can get away with, or without us knowing or realizing it, gradually and methodically desensitizing us to the fact that they are getting away with more and more. All of these things can serve a few really great purposes:
It allows us the opportunity to repeatedly practice communicating and living in congruence with these personal rules and boundaries. Sometimes this is extremely difficult, but it is by doing difficult things that we build credibility with ourselves and others through consistency, and we grow our self-esteem.
It allows us the opportunity to practice what we believe, being tested on the level of resolve we have towards our rules and boundaries, and strengthened by the experience, or maybe have our weaknesses exposed regarding them, learning what we need to practice getting better at.
It allows for the opportunity to question our rules and boundaries, thereby being able to redefine them into something more beneficial and optimal for ourselves and those around us, through this testing phase.
It provides us the opportunity to see who truly respects and loves us, and allows us to respect and love ourselves, while exposing those who may not have our best interest at heart.
It offers the opportunity to be reminded of what is and isn’t important to us, through the experiences that can only come through contrast, and reminds us what we need to re-focus on, and begin thinking about more regularly.
Any and every response from others, and any reaction they may have towards our personal rules and boundaries, therefore, benefits us, no matter what.
Success leaves a trail anyone can follow. Results don’t lie. The most successful people in this world have certain CONSISTENT practices, disciplines, and habits in common, the most important of which is a mindset and a set of beliefs that propels them towards Personal Development. They have the concrete belief that they are good the way they are right now, and that with each moment and each life experience, there is an opportunity to get even stronger, wiser, and better.
One of the many tools which highly successful people use, is to find out what they are good at. They discover the things that make them the best at who they are, and they get better at those things. They cultivate and develop them, and experiment with the implementation of habits which will make them better at these things, careful to remember that getting better is a gradual, slow, meandering, timely, process that only comes through consistency and repetition. They expand the best about themselves, and create an environment around themselves, with certain practices, disciplines, and habits, in which they can more effectively and easily grow. They don’t spend time or energy trying to become something or someone they are not, but instead spend all of their time and energy becoming more of who they are.
Truly successful people practice Self Awareness, because they have learned that Self Awareness leads to Self-Empowerment. They dive deeply within to find their own weaknesses, character defects, or flaws, which make them feel bad about themselves, experience a lower level of self-esteem, or distract them from growth. They work on those things relentlessly, to become stronger, wiser, and better. By so doing, they improve themselves, and empower themselves to efficiently and effectively do even MORE for OTHERS, knowing that the more value they add to others, the more valuable they become.
It is through the consistent and constant pursuit of Personal Development that life becomes better for us. It is through the consistent and constant pursuit of Personal Development that life become better for everyone else around us.
Today, as an experiment, I will choose to eliminate expectations of others, and focus instead on expressing gratitude and appreciation for their strengths and the value they add. I will also do the same for myself.
One of the most empowering books I have ever come across regarding mindset is Carol Dweck’s incredible work, MINDSET.
The author to research when it comes to boundaries is Melody Beattie. I read from her book, THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO, every morning.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
I love Simon Sinek’s book, philosophy, words, and idea that, “Together is Better.” It is so true. Alone, we can only do, accomplish, feel, learn, think, and obtain so much. With the help, inspiration, motivation, added energy, exposure to new experiences and wisdom, love, support, kindness, patience, additional momentum, and interest from others, even more is possible.(To enjoy content by Simon Sinek, simply drop his name into YouTube. You will not regret doing this.)
Growing up, I adopted the idea that I was supposed to become strong enough to do it all alone. Life was like a competition or a game, where I had to be better and had to be more than everyone else. I compared myself to others constantly instead of comparing me to myself. The interesting thing was that I chose to always compare myself to people who I judged and considered, “weaker” than myself, so that I was always, “better” than everyone around me. I was caught in the trap of comparing my strengths to the perceived weaknesses of others, and it left me feeling superior but disconnected, and resulted in a false sense of strength, and becoming progressively weaker. It gave me a false sense of security. I did this because it made me feel better about myself, but it only offered me a false and unhelpful level of confidence and value. Sometimes, I would even gossip about others, diminish and demean them, and shed them in a negative light, so that I would seem to shine more brightly, and look even better. I would push people in front of the proverbial bus, to look or seem better than them. It was an awful way to live. It was a horrid, incredibly disempowering habit. I lacked realconfidence and self-esteem that comes only from integrity, authenticity, honesty, keeping promises to myself, continued personal progress, and contribution. Eventually, just as with ALL of us, my bad habits caught up with me and the results were devastating. I didn’t like who I had become, and neither did anyone else. It was easy to live like that when I was younger, but since doing hard things is the only way we build credibility with ourselves, I had none, and I hated who I was.
Now, I know better. I know that the only person I can honestly really be comparing myself to, is myself. Am I stronger than I was yesterday? Am I wiser than I was yesterday? Am I better than I was yesterday? Are my skills and perspectives improving because of my hard work, focus, and dedication? If not, I realize I have some work to do, because PROGRESS EQUALS HAPPINESS.
Together is better. With the help, inspiration, motivation, added energy, exposure to new experiences, love, support, kindness, patience, momentum, and interest from another, anything is possible.
When we constantly and consistently create and practice having deep, meaningful, purposeful, fulfilling, beautiful relationships, we will always have others there for us when we need them the most, because we will have already made it a habit to be there for them.
I think it is important to remember to spend the majority of our time with and around uplifting, inspirational, motivated people, instead of spending the majority of our time around those who are constantly negative-minded, pessimistic, and who eventually break us down emotionally. EVERY INTERACTION, be it energetic, spiritual, verbal, or physical, an actual ENERGY EXCHANGE is made. We absorb the energy of those around us without realizing or sometimes even knowing it. Spending time with someone who chooses negative energy infects us, and drains us of all our energy, while surrounding ourselves with positivity, love, light, acceptance, appreciation, and grace, ONLY results in us absorbing and being capable of using THAT energy. ENVIRONMENT MATTERS.
I have a growing belief that the more we are there for others, and the more value we add to others, the better everything will naturally unfold in positive ways for us.
Burdens are made easier to bare, when shared.
Together is better. With the help, inspiration, motivation, added energy, exposure to new experiences, love, support, kindness, patience, additional momentum, and positive interest from another,even more is possible.
Today, I will look for opportunities to be there for another who may be going through something difficult. I will reach out to someone I trust if I am going through something difficult, and remember that all things are made easier to bare when shared.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
