Being open and honest with people about our weaknesses may feel risky but can be considered a strength by the people we actually want to keep in our lives. It helps others connect with us on a much deeper level. It helps them to realize and remember that we don’t think we are better than them. It inspires others to actually desire to want to be around us. Together is better, because together we can uplift and strengthen one another. Together, we can create a safe, connected, protected environment.
My youngest son, Dravyn, does this instinctively. Most of the time he does it without even realizing it. One day, at school, as he was talking with another boy in one of his classes. This boy expressed his feelings of inadequacy anytime he was around my son. My son is six-foot-tall, blonde hair, blue eyes, very fit, very smart, very driven, and very hard-working. Being around him can be intimidating for people who don’t know him. My son immediately pointed out some of his weaknesses, which in this case, was how poorly he draws. He showed him an example of one of his drawings, and they laughed at it together. They immediately bonded and connected, and the boy said, “Well, I guess we can be friends, after all!”
When we pretend to be perfect or better than others, or when we choose not to ever be vulnerable and share our feelings of weakness and inadequacy with others, and remain open and honest, we lose out on an opportunity to connect with them. Others immediately start to think that we think we are better than them, or above them in some way. It alienates us and destroys chances and opportunities for real, deep, meaningful connections that could otherwise take place. We don’t have to be self-deprecating, but there is nothing wrong with being honest, and admitting we are not perfect, and that we are simply caught up in consistently trying to do our very best.
Sometimes we become attached to the need to look like we are better than others. Sometimes we get caught up in the Comparison Game, in order to feed our ego, or the part of us that was taught from a very young age that we are somehow not good enough in our natural state, and we must put on an act because it matters what other people will think about us. The TRUTH is, we ARE good enough, EXACTLY AS WE ARE. We don’t need to put on an act. It doesn’t matter what others think about us, and comparing our strengths to the weaknesses of others, just to feed that place in us that feels inadequate, worthless, and invalidated will NEVER benefit ANYONE.
Reminder to self: There is true strength is being open, honest, transparent, and vulnerable around the right people at the right time. Be wise with who you choose to be open and honest with. There are some that would use your weaknesses against you, and there are others who will celebrate who you are and love you, no matter what. PRACTICE RADICAL SELF-ACCEPTANCE! To be immune to ALL the opinions of others is to enjoy peace.
To have and enjoy more, we have to DO more, and up-level the WHO that we identify as in this body-but we will never BE more than WHAT we TRULY already are as a divine, eternal, interconnected energy.
Today I will remember that connections are important and that being vulnerable is actually a strength.
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What better way to start the day than with a perspective check that helps shift our focus towards something we believe is beneficial and will add to our own personal growth and improvement? Reminders like this have value, especially when reviewed at the start of a day as part of a consistent, daily, morning routine.
Each of these messages are meant to remind us of what we already believe to be important and beneficial in our daily lives, and to aid in the re-focusing process many of us don’t even realize we so desperately need. It has become increasingly more difficult to focus on what truly matters with all the many distractions which are now so prevalent in our lives.
This website was created to remind myself in some small way, each and every day, that Mindset matters, that Character counts, and that FOCUS IS EVERYTHING.
That which we focus upon tends to manifest itself in our lives, more and more. The more intense our focus, the quicker the thing we focus upon manifests.
It is my deepest desire that this website will benefit you as much as it has benefited me.
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Most of my life was spent learning some very key lessons. For some reason, I chose to learn things the hard way, most of the time. I now attribute ALL of those hard times and difficult lessons to my beliefs, perspectives, habituated patterns, and my perspectives at the time. Those beliefs drove all of my decisions, and I earned all of the results that came from those decisions. It wasn’t until I changed, replaced, improved, up-leveled, and upgraded my beliefs, that EVERYTHING else changed, as well. (For examples of some of my old beliefs written down next to my new and improved beliefs, google The goodinthehead Beliefs Project.)
They say that a stupid man never learns, and that a smart man will eventually learn from his mistakes. A wise man, however, will learn from the mistakes of others. I’m finally at a place in my life where I aspire to wisdom and the idea of learning from the mistakes AND SUCCESSESof others, so that I can then apply that knowledge which others have obtained and shared, and implement and habituate it into my own life. Through doing so, I have learned that we can all avoid pitfalls others have already experienced, as well as achieving the type of lifestyles others have achieved.
I think it is incredibly noble and generous of those who see their purpose in life as endeavoring to alleviate the suffering of others. I also see the other side of the coin, and understand that by alleviating the suffering of others, we sometimes disempower and disable them, taking away a golden opportunity of true experiences and learning that they later may have valued and gained from a great deal.
Sometimes, the best possible thing we can do for others is to simply work on ourselves, let go of the need to control situations and the experiences of others, and stay the course.
Somehow, harmony, symmetry, balance, and homeostasis is ALWAYS being achieved, regardless of what we do or don’t do. Things tend to unfold exactly as THEY need to for the greater good of the collective whole at all times, regardless of our personal attachments to the illusion of the need to control ANY aspect of it . All we need to do is our personal work, and learning from the mistakes and successes of others is a great way to do this.
The only thing I used to be consistent about in my life was being inconsistent. I was known for it. People laughed at me, called me a hypocrite, and my self-esteem suffered because of it. It destroyed my confidence and rendered me feeling hopeless most of the time. For years, I chose to be a victim. The way I finally overcame that was to start small. I was at an all-time low in my life. I was at a time where everything had gone wrong, fallen apart, and I had to start completely over. In the summer of 2014, I started with one, easy-to-do thing. Unknown to me that at that point in my life, starting over would truly turn out to be one of the greatest blessings of my life.
The thing I started with was this: Each day, I looked up, saved, and read a new quote that inspired me.
I knew I had to improve my mindset. I had heard somewhere that if I improved my mindset, everything else in my life would work out, and everything would fall into place. Eventually, with consistency and time, everything did work out. Everything did fall into place.
Once I had been reading a new quote each day for a month, I added the daily, consistent practice of gratitude. Each day, in the shower, I would make a mental list of everything I had to be grateful for. Over time, it reprogrammed my mind to consistently look for the positive in everything, ALL THE TIME. After years of doing this, the difference this consistent practice has made is like being in a completely dark room for years, then finally finding the light switch to a room filled with lights in every available space on the walls and the ceiling.
By starting small and continuously expanding, it is less overwhelming, like finding a dimmer switch and slowly turning on all the lights gradually, rather than flipping a switch and burning to death from an over-abundance of light.
Each month, I added another thing. With consistency and time, momentum was gained. My confidence grew. My skills and capabilities improved. (If you would like to see what my daily schedule looked like for 2019, google The goodinthehead Habit-Hacking Challenge.)
EVERYTHING about my entire life has improved. I expect that as I continue with consistency in what I do, my life, and everything about it, will continue to improve. Up until 2014, from the year 1999, I was depressed and suicidal, every, single day, while on mood stabilizers and antidepressants. Because of consistency, and a commitment to make a personal shift from VICTIM to VICTOR, I am now well-known for my high level of integrity, being consistent and dependable, and FAR more emotionally and mentally aware and stable than I used to be. I am thanked on a regular basis for adding value to others, and for me, this is meaningful, purposeful, and fulfilling. I do realize, however, that it is true that we all do or do do OUROWN WORK, and the results of our lives are a direct reflection of this work.
THE IMPORTANCE OF REPETITION:
There is nothing more beautiful than connecting with others in a real way and enjoying the illusion of adding value, while they seem to do the same for me. The exchange of energy and information through compassion, unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, and kindness is incredible.
I would have never thought that so much could change for me in only a few short years. If so much could happen for me in just a few years, imagine all that could happen for ANYONE in a few years, who is willing to be wise, learn from the mistakes and wisdom of others, and commit to a consistent, daily, habitual, mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, personal improvement schedule!
Can you see five years into your future and envision EXACTLY who you want to be and EXACTLY what you want your life to be like? Consistency will get you there!
Consistency creates a conversion and a convergence of circumstances that will serve and save you. It will seem like luck, good fortune, or like everything just always seems to magically work out, but it is because of your consistency that you have become predictable, reliable, and dependable. Consistent effort and action builds momentum and becomes an unstoppable force.
It is simply easier for the Universe, God, or our higher power to work with us when we are consistent. It is through consistency that we set our selves up for success and stack the cards in our favor.
Today I will decide what one, small, easy-to-do thing I can add to my own, personal, daily routine, that will help me to add value to my life and grow my confidence in some way. I will remember that while completing this daily task, CONSISTENCY IS KEY. If I miss a day, I won’t let guilt or shame get the better of me. I will simply keep at it until it is a consistent practice and has become a habit.
An EXCELLENT example of going from VICTIM to VICTOR, is Lisa Nichols. I love her story, and how she literally raised up from nothing to all that she is today. If one person can do it, through consistency and hard work, ANY OF US CAN. Type her name into the YouTube search engine, and prepare to be dazzled!
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our realities.
Life can get big and busy and distracting really, really fast!
I think it is important that we practice the basics every, single day. It is important that we practice the key fundamentals every, single day. By doing so, we build a strong foundation and we create within ourselves, and in our immediate, physical world, a consistent, growth-inducing, safe, healthy, environment in which to live. We can get ahead in our lives much more quickly by mastering the basics, rather than being continuously distracted by all of the flashy accomplishments and accolades.
Sometimes, at work, when new employees arrive after training, they hurry through their work as quickly as they can to produce as much as the seasoned employees. They want to prove they are more valuable than all of the OTHER new employees. They become progressively stressed, frustrated, and angry, as they strive to prove themselves better producers by getting better numbers. Inevitably, they create more problems, make more mistakes, and cost the company more and more money, when the goal is to LOOK good, rather than taking their time to build a strong foundation of knowledge and skills, and actually BEING good. Life is the same way.
In a numbers-based society, where we are trained that it is acceptable for others to tell us our worth and value based upon numbers and metrics, it is easy to get caught up in how we look, rather than who and what we actually are. How does anyone measure things like honesty, work ethic, a growth mindset, a high level of consistent integrity, empathy, kindness, compassion, having a positive impact upon the attitudes of others, consistency in influencing others to be their best self and always do their best in all they do, and practical leadership skills? Does it come because of a title, or a piece of paper proving an education has been acquired? How does anyone truly measure the consistent progress someone is making on the inside, while they are doing the truly hard work in the areas of self-development and self-improvement, while juggling a life of raising children as a single parent, navigating the dating world, taking classes at night, and trying to evolve and promote themselves in the work place?
What works for one person may not work for everyone. That is normal. That is okay! We are all different and unique. We can all find the things that work best for us in our own lives. Through experimentation with different experiences, mindsets, and beliefs, we will quickly discover and learn what is best for us, as individuals. Each of us are on a journey in this life and we must all find our own way.
The best way I have found is to learn through the help of mentors and teachers. Anyone can be a mentor and a teacher. Some of my favorite mentors are dead, but they had the foresight and wisdom to record their helpful words and wise ideas for others before they passed on. We can seek out our own mentors.
Reminder to self:
Seek out mentors. Research them. Decide what your strengths are and what you want to become, and then find the people who have done it already. Shadow them. Follow them. Mirror them. Learn from them. Take from them the good and desirable, that you appreciate and are grateful for, and apply it all into your own life and let it work for you. ANYTHING someone else has done can be repeated and done by us, and even altered, tailored, and improved by us!
Decide what YOUR basics are that you will live your life by. Define what YOUR fundamentals are. Practice them every day.
Some of my basics I have decided to practice daily and adopt into my daily routine are:
Kindness. Adherence to the Golden Rule. Empathy, seeking to understand, and compassion.
Listening without judgement and criticism.
Always upgrading in EVERY area of life.
Remembering WHAT I TRULY AM, as I continue to work towards upgrading the WHO I identify as while in this body.
Self-appreciation, self-acceptance, and self-love.
Practicing Gratitude and appreciating the beauty and perfection in each moment of now.
Reading, listening to, and watching inspirational material. Spending as much time as I can with people who push me out of my comfort zone and make me want to become a better version of myself than I was yesterday. I once heard we are the sum total of these things.
Meditation and visualization.
Proper eating habits and good nutrition.
Exercise of some kind. Anything is better than nothing, even a walk around the block.
Reviewing my personal goals.
Positive Affirmations, like, “EVERY DAY AND IN EVERY WAY I AM GETTING BETTER AND BETTER.”
Breathing techniques, like box breathing, or the Wim Hof meathod.
Adding value to others. Anything is better than nothing. Even a simple smile or a quick hello, can make a huge difference in someone’s day.
Today I will think about and consider what the basics are for me. If I haven’t already, I will write them down, look at them often, and keep things simple and easy in my life by practicing them daily. By doing so I will habitually and consistently create an environment of success for myself. I will start small, keep things easy, find what works for me, and keep working at it.
Tai Lopez has a great interview about mentors and the importance of them.
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My sweet boy. I wouldn’t be any kind of a man or a father if I didn’t tell you what you need to hear, and instead always stuck to what I know you may want to hear.
I honestly wish I had listened better when someone had told me these things, and that I had reviewed them daily, when I was younger and thought I knew and understood everything.
I wasn’t joking last night when I told you that your school work is a monster. It is important, in your life, for you to slay the monsters while they are still weak, small, and unable to destroy you. It’s like pulling weeds in a garden. If you never do it, the garden will be overrun and useless. It is the same with your mind, your body, and your life. Pick the weeds as soon as they appear. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. This small habit, practiced consistently, will serve and save you, every day.
It is important to me the kind of man you choose to become. The little, seemingly insignificant choices you make each day, to do or not to do things, adds up, over time. All of the little things become big things, some day. You get to choose what those little things are, each and every day. You create your life with every choice you make. It all starts with what you think about. The secret to success, AND the secret to failure, is this: We become what we think about.
When you don’t do well, or as well as you know you can, put it on yourself. Always do your best. Your best will always be good enough.
Personal accountability, accepting responsibility and all consequences of your actions, as well as your inactions, is what being a good man is all about. All boys become men. Not all boys become good men.
I believe you are good, strong, kind, wise, and full of greatness. I love you more than anything in this world and I’m grateful to have been blessed to raise you and have you as my son. You are on a good path and I hope you stick to it. Make it a habit to get done what you need to, earlier than you need to. Procrastination is the killer of dreams.
You are growing up so fast. I’m proud of who you choose to be each day and I hope you are, as well.
Always own your shit. Be the kind of man who accepts full responsibility for his actions and inactions. The consequences of your decisions are yours and yours alone. It is nobody’s job to save you-that is something you must learn to consistently do for yourself. I’m glad I have been able to provide you the life I did. It could have been worse and it could have been better. The thing I love is that you recognize it as the blessing it has been all along. You are grateful, appreciative, and capable of seeing the good in all of it. This makes you wise beyond your years. When life gets really tough and challenging, and it will, remember to recognize everything as a blessing, and remember to always recognize the good in all things. Focus exclusively on these things, and the bad will disappear, in time. We get back more of what we focus on.
You can always choose to push the blame for any failure in your life onto others, come up with excuses, and justify your actions, but I don’t see you doing that very often, and it makes me proud. It makes me hopeful. I think that you will set a standard in this life that is cool and inspiring for others to follow.
Our happiness level suffers every time our stress levels go up, so I believe it is important to create a physical environment and an emotional/mental environment within ourselves, that will be free of stress, guilt, manipulation, self-doubt, fear, and unhappiness. Pain is key to growth, but I have a growing belief that pain which is self-induced in the form of goals, hard work, progression, personal improvement, etc. is a better kind of pain to focus on, than the pain that life will inevitably throw on our shoulders to help us grow when we choose to be lazy. It’s almost as if there is a law the Universe has been programmed to follow, stating that it must recognize struggle, difficulty, and stress in our lives, or cause it FOR us. I’ve seen it far too often in my life not to believe this.
Continue to seek out the good, the difficult, and the challenging. Keep on looking forward to the prize you know you will deserve each and every time you choose to do the work to deserve it. This, in no way, means you will get that prize, but knowing you did the hard work to deserve it will, at times, be reward enough. Self-appreciate. Be proud of yourself because you have many reasons to be.
We never know which day will be our last. I will, til the day I die, love you, care for you to the best of my ability, and be the best father for you I possibly can. I might not always be your vision of the perfect father, but I’ll always do my best by you. Please know and remember that my best may differ, from day to day, but it is always my best. I will always give you all I’ve got.
Keep going. Keep doing what you are doing. Failures are inevitable. Quitting must never be an option. Keep getting back up when you get knocked down, as quickly as you can. Remember always that you are loved and that you are not alone.
My body may die but my energy will be with you always.
-Dad
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
There are many areas in life in which we have the opportunity to improve, every day. Improving in one of these areas will automatically, by default, help us to improve in some way in all of the other areas. All things bleed into oneness. Just imagine if we have a goal or a simple, consistent task we complete each and every day that helps us improve and grow in all of these areas.
These are some areas for possible growth opportunities:
Spiritual, Financial, Personal, Emotional, Educational, Physical, and Social.
Some of these things can be lumped together in the same category. They are all interconnected and make up the whole of us, as humans. When we are lacking or abundant in any of these areas, it shows up noticeably and measurably in all of the other areas of our lives.
Some of the keys to becoming a well-rounded individual are consistency, focus, awareness, action, repetitive practice, and balance. We all have 24 hours in a day. What we do with that time is important, and affects the entire rest of our existence, forever dictating the trajectory of our lives from that moment on.
A simple, easy, daily morning routine, practiced consistently, builds up momentum and strength, producing even MORE opportunities, and setting us on an entirely alternate course and trajectory in our lives.
Mindset is the most important thing in improving any of these areas in our lives. With an ever-evolving, ever-improving mindset, our beliefs, practices, habits, and our perspectives continuously change and improve over time. We go from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, which benefits us and everyone around us. As we evolve, we become more valuable, and we help and inspire those around us to do the same.
Today I will think about each of these areas of my life, evaluate how I, personally, am doing in each of these areas, and come up with simple things I can do to consistently improve in some little way.
Here are a few interviews that have been most helpful and inspirational, to me, in experimenting with simple, daily, consistent practices and routines, that have forever altered the course of my life, and completely changed the trajectory of my existence. In order for our lives to get better, WE must be better. These people have a few empowering methods on EXACTLY HOW TO:
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
Just like the bow is used to pull back an arrow before it is launched forward, life is meant to pull us back, before we can be launched forward.
The further we are pulled back by the bow of life, the more potential we have to be shot forward out of the bow. Sometimes, the arrow comes off the arrow rest on the bow and it falls to the ground, instead of being shot forward. In life, it is our responsibility to learn to stay on the arrow rest, stay pointed in the right direction to hit the target, and to be shot forward when it is time to be freed. It takes practice.
When life situations and other people get us down, sometimes we get into a deep, dark state. Feel the darkness. It’s okay to be in this place. It’s part of the process. Just remember not to stay there too long. The darkness is meant to motivate and empower us. It is there to help us level up and learn. As we acquire the strength and skills needed to expand out of this darkness, we are more capable of helping and empowering others to do the same.
Our ability to quickly get back up after a set back is imperative. There is a refractory period between the time we experience a high state of emotions, like anger and frustration, to the time we are able to ease back into our baseline emotional state. The shorter this time is, the less reactive we become and the more fulfilling, meaningful, and enjoyable our lives can become.
Andrew Huberman, the world-renound neurologist, teaches a quick, easy breathing technique that allows us to immediately return to our baseline state of emotions.
I’ve listened to a recording by Dr. Levry almost DAILY after learning that it is through REPETITION that we reprogram our SUBCONSCIOUS minds, which is responsible for running automatically and from which we act out our realities throughout each day 95% of the time.
Some of the most useful methods I have come across to help shorten this refractory period are meditation, the practice of gratitude, and practicing visualization. Being able to retrain our brains, adopt new habits, and consistently practice these new ways, helps us to create a new life.
As the arrow, what are you pointed at? What is your target? Just keep aiming at it as life pulls you back, and know that you will soon be released, let go, and shot forward with purpose.
Today I will be the arrow. I will be mindful and aware as to which direction I am pointing. Either I am being pulled back or I am being shot forward. I will keep aiming at my target.
Below are a few videos, supporting the tools of visualization, gratitude, meditation, and a consistent morning routine. All of these tools, used and practiced consistently, will empower ANYONE who uses them regularly, to create the life of their dreams. First this life is created in our minds, then the physical realm struggles and works FOR us, to make our creations an actual, physical reality. The key to success, and the key to failure, is contained within this truth: WE BECOME WHAT WE CONSISTENTLY THINK ABOUT.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.
Have you ever had a bag of food you have packed for a trip?Maybe it was for a picnic, or for a road trip, or lunch for your day at work. We spend a lot of time and energy and we put a lot of love into this delicious meal.Many of us have learned that if we put a banana into the bag with the food, everything will taste like that damn banana.
Reminder to self:In life, be the banana.
Live in a way that will affect everyone around you, just like that banana does.Infect the minds and lives of everyone around you in a way that is noticeable, positive, empowering, uplifting, accepting, appreciative, loving, and helpful.Consistently contribute to the betterment of others and add value to the lives of everyone around you.Be the banana.
Today, and always, I will be the banana.I will habitually live my daily life in such a way that I will ALWAYS be a positive, impactful influence, infecting the minds and lives of others.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our realities.
We can’t do much for ourselves or for others if we don’t feel good. We ALL have the need and the capacity and ability to heal. For some, it is easier than others. Learning how to heal is one of the most important things we can learn how to do in this life. It is also one of the most important tools we can pass along to those we love. Even if you never once need any of this information, it is guaranteed that if you have this information in your personal arsenal you will add value to others with it, eventually. You may literally save someone’s life by sharing it.
Physical healing from illnesses and diseases, mental or emotional healing from traumatic experiences or prolonged, repeated abuse, spiritual healing from a mis-perception in a belief systems or personal philosophy, healing needed from personal difficulties, or the inability to understand things which cause us pain, are all things which can cause us to need to heal. The healing process can be one of the most difficult, heart-wrenching, painful, processes of our entire life, but once started, it quickly can become the biggest blessing we will ever experience.
I’ve come across some videos that have helped me to learn how to practice healing and I wanted to share them. I hope they will help you learn how to practice healing and how to teach others to heal, as well. Please share this post with anyone and everyone you know that could benefit from any kind of healing.
Healing is a lifelong process and practice. We all experience pain and trauma and loss. Because of this, we are forever in, “Recovery.” The earlier we learn how to practice healing, the better. Life throws many reasons at us to learn how to recover and heal. The more effective we are at healing and recovery, the better off we will be. The better off others around us will also be. Just as damaged people tend to damage others, healed people experiencing and practicing recovery tend to heal others and help them recover.
Are you ready to start healing? This is some of the knowledge and wisdom I’ve researched and been lucky enough to come across. I hope it benefits you as much as it has benefited me.
Speaking with our oldest granddaughter is always a treat. She is so cute and so intelligent. One day, she announced that she was going to be featured in that year’s school talent show. Out of the 400 students that tried out, she was one of the 20 students that was picked for the talent show. She was so proud, and so were we.
She mentioned that she practiced every day, except for the days that she was at Nana’s house, where she didn’t have a piano to practice with. I related to her the following story:
There once was a man who was in prison for a five-year time period. He was extremely bored, and found himself with a lot of time on his hands. One of the things he did to pass the time was to go to the library. He found a book all about playing the guitar. He had never touched a guitar in his life, but had always wanted to learn how to play. He read the book, over and over, which was complete with information, lessons, instructions, and pictures. He learned how to play the guitar in his mind. As he continued this practice in his mind every day, he could envision himself actually completing the chords and picking the strings, just like in the book. The interesting thing was that they didn’t have any guitars to actually, physically practice there in the prison, where he was doing his time.
When this man got out of prison, he had practiced playing the guitar so often in his mind that the first time he picked up an actual guitar he did incredibly well.
I suggested to the granddaughter that she practice in her mind, even if a piano wasn’t available to her. She did incredibly well at the talent show. We were so surprised at how talented she is, and so proud of her.
A great lesson to remember is this: Even if we don’t have all of the physical tools we need to accomplish what we wish to, the most important tool of all is our mind. AS WITHIN, SO WITHOUT. We can focus on the excuses and the lack we see and choose to believe, in order to justify not doing a thing, or we can focus on the solutions possible to us, and realize the abundance of limitless opportunities our minds are capable of presenting us with, and choose to follow through. Visualization practices, and constantly practicing something in our minds, is an opportunity for improvement and progression in anything. We can be or do anything we can first see ourselves being or doing, in our mind’s eye.
Jay Shetty teaches:
WE CAN’T BE WHAT WE CAN’T SEE.
Today I will remember that my mind, and how I use it, is the most important and powerful tool I will ever need to accomplish anything. I will repeatedly and consistently envision completing tasks in the most desirable manner possible, which I want to be excellent at.
One of the greatest visualization mentors, and a pioneer of creation through thought, is a man by the name of John Earl Shoaff. We have very few recordings of this man’s teachings, but what we have is gold! He is worth looking into and researching. Plug his name into google and YouTube, and see what tools you find. I assure you it will be well worth the time spent.
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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our realities.
