Pete Jones, Author at GOOD IN THE HEAD

May 26, 2018November 18, 2018

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What better way to start the day than with a perspective check that helps shift our focus towards something we believe is beneficial and will add to our own personal growth and improvement? Reminders like this have value, especially when reviewed at the start of a day as part of a consistent, daily, morning routine.
Each of these messages are meant to remind us of what we already believe to be important and beneficial in our daily lives, and to aid in the re-focusing process many of us don’t even realize we so desperately need. It has become increasingly more difficult to focus on what truly matters with all the many distractions which are now so prevalent in our lives.
This website was created to remind myself in some small way, each and every day, that Mindset matters, that Character counts, and that FOCUS IS EVERYTHING.
That which we focus upon tends to manifest itself in our lives, more and more. The more intense our focus, the quicker the thing we focus upon manifests.

It is my deepest desire that this website will benefit you as much as it has benefited me.

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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. Focus is everything!

May 26, 2018May 26, 2024

May 26: Boundaries

The better we know, the better we are and the better we do. Improvements in us lead to adding more and more value to our lives and to the lives of the people around us. Self-Awareness and boundaries play a key role in being and doing better.

What makes you angry? What makes you frustrated? What in your life do you want to change? What rules have you made for yourself to guide you in your own, personal life? Are there changes that need to take place in your own personal rule book? Are you still living by the rules you followed as a child or when you were younger, that may not still apply? Are you living in accordance to old rules imposed upon you as a child that realistically do not benefit you or apply to you anymore?

Look around at some of the other people in the world who are truly happy, enlightened, successful, and fulfilled, and find out what rules they are living by. Success leaves clues. Results don’t lie, and the quality of the results we experience directly correlate to the quality of our thinking, speaking, and doing.

Wouldn’t you rather live a progressively better, happier, more fulfilling life, each and every day?

Progression leads to even more happiness and fulfillment. Without it all hope is lost. There is nothing to work towards. No target to aim for. No goals to achieve.

Note to self: Figure out the boundaries you want to have from here on out and what rules you want to live your life by. Start right now to progress, hope, work, change, become better, and do better.

Choose for yourself how YOU want to be truly happy, enlightened, successful, and fulfilled. You will become more valuable, by adding more value to your life, and to the lives of those around you.

Today I will review my boundaries, rules, and beliefs, practices, and perceptions of all things, and alter, improve, or replace anything that may no longer be helpful to me or conducive to me being my best self.

*One of the most helpful books I have come across regarding setting healthy, helpful boundaries, is Mealody Beattie’s, “THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO.” I highly recommend buying the hard copy to this book. It contains a daily reading which can be completed in only a few minutes. It’s also free and easy to access through Google by typing in the name of the book and today’s date.

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Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.

May 25, 2018May 25, 2025

May 25: Don’t Be A Flea

A good friend once told me this story, and I’ve never forgotten it:

As a small boy, I once watched something amazing. An older gentleman had a glass mason jar with 10 fleas in it. The lid was on tight. He gathered a bunch of us kids around to show us an experiment.
He held the glass jar above an open flame. Almost immediately, the fleas began trying to escape the pain of the flames by jumping away from the heat. This resulted in a, “tink, tink,” as their little bodies started to hit the lid at the top of the jar. Almost as soon as it started, however, it stopped. The old man asked, “What do you observe?” One of the older kids said, “They are jumping away from the flames and started hitting their heads on the lid, but why did they stop hitting their heads?”

The fleas were responding to pain. They didn’t want to feel pain from the flames, so they immediately started jumping, over and over, to get away from the heat. They didn’t want to feel the pain from the lid they were jumping into, so they immediately learned just exactly how high to jump in order to not feel the pain from the lid.

The old man then did something curious. He opened the lid. The kids were confused, and so was I, as we watched the fleas continue to jump only high enough to get away from the flames, and just under where the lid used to be. All of us were wondering why the fleas wouldn’t jump out of the jar. When we asked the old man, he told us, “Just like in life, these fleas are so focused on not getting hurt that they don’t take any risks. They choose not to take any chances. Sometimes, it is important to push through the pain and take the risk of getting hurt, just to see if circumstances have changed. They almost always do.”

Pain is a gift. It is simply information, data, and feedback, which when we process, can then be used to recalibrate and make necessary adjustments, so we can try again. We were NEVER meant to stop trying, again and again.

When we stop trying, and stick to doing the same things, over and over, we stop learning and growing. Since we all have a program installed within us at birth to learn, grow, and experience as much as we all can, we sometimes choose to be courageous enough to try again, or to try something different.

Have you ever seen a tree grow HALF? Have you ever known a tree or a plant or a flower grow half as tall, half as deep, half as large as it could be? We, as humans, do it all the time, but EVERYTHING else in nature blossoms and grows to its full potential. WE CAN TOO.

Today I will remember the story of the fleas and remember that it is okay to risk the pain of getting hurt to take chances. I’ve spent my life in a glass jar. The lid has long since been taken off and the whole universe is open to me.

I believe that the answer to ALL things is LOVE. Self love is the best place to start. Melody Beattie writes about the importance of self love, and perfecting the art and practice of unconditionally loving ourselves, and just why it is the most important thing we can do, in her book, THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO:

May 25-Loving Ourselves Unconditionally:

Love yourself into health and a good life of your own.

Love yourself into relationships that work for you and the other person. Love yourself into peace, happiness, joy, success, and contentment.

Love yourself into all that you always wanted. We can stop treating ourselves the way others treated us if they behaved in a less than healthy, desirable way. If we have learned to see ourselves critically, conditionally, and in a diminishing and punishing way, it’s time to stop. Other people treated us that way, but it’s even worse to treat ourselves that way now.

Loving ourselves may seem foreign, even foolish at times. People may accuse us of being selfish. We don’t have to believe them.

People who love themselves are truly able to love others and let others love them. People who love themselves and hold themselves in high esteem are those who give the most, contribute the most, and love the most.

How do we love ourselves? By forcing it, at first. By faking it, if necessary. By acting as if. By working as hard at loving and liking ourselves as we have at not liking ourselves.

Explore what it means to love yourself.

Do things for yourself that reflect compassionate, nurturing, self love.

Embrace and love all of yourself – past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself.

If we think and believe negative ideas, get them out in the open quickly and honestly, so we can replace those beliefs with better ones.

Pat yourself on the back when necessary. Discipline yourself when necessary. Ask for help, for time; ask for what you need.

Sometimes give yourself treats. Do not treat yourself like a pack mule, always pushing and driving harder. Learn to be good to yourself. Choose behaviors with preferable consequences – treating yourself well is one.

Learn to stop your pain, even when that means making difficult decisions. Do not unnecessarily deprive yourself. Sometimes give yourself what you want, just because you want it.

Stop explaining and justifying yourself. When you make mistakes, let them go. We learn, we grow, and we learn some more. And through it all, we love ourselves.

We work at it, and then work at it some more. One day we’ll wake up, look in the mirror, and find that loving ourselves has become habitual. We’re now living with a person who gives and receives love, because that person loves him or herself. Self-love will take hold and become a guiding force in our life.

Today, I will work at loving myself. I will work as hard at loving myself as I have at not liking myself. Help me let go of self-hate and behaviors that reflect not liking myself. Help me replace those with behaviors that reflect self-love. Today, Higher Power, help me hold myself in high self-esteem. Help me know I’m lovable and capable of giving and receiving love.

Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.

May 24, 2018May 24, 2024

May 24: Comfort

Comfort is often the enemy of success. Don’t get me wrong-being comfortable is what we all strive for in life, and it is nice! It is important to remember, however, that if all we have is comfort and ease, there will be no growth, no challenges, and no achievements reached. To consistently expand and grow, it is useful to push ourselves out of our comfort zones, then include within our blueprint, time for recovery.

We are all so blessed, and many of us have our every need and most of our wants met. We are in a position, many of us, where we don’t have to do things that are uncomfortable for us, and this can be a dangerous and precarious position to be in. It creates a false sense of security and strength. I believe that it is only by pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones and doing things that are scary, difficult, or challenging, that we can begin to align our lives with our potential, experience growth, and know the enjoyment of progress.

A useful and beautiful belief I have adopted, along with these ideas, is that while living out this human experience, I can choose to be happy, content, and satisfied within, no matter the chaos and turmoil that may be happening around me, and when I do, everything seems to fall into place, and it is easier for me to believe and remember that everything happening TO me is actually happening FOR me.

I have a strong belief that The Universe was designed to conspire on our behalf. Because of that, I believe that if we are not busy completing self-imposed, difficult, challenging tasks, that we have intentionally chosen, The Universe will send some our way.

Sometimes, looking at a list of things to do, it is a great strategy to find the most difficult, time-consuming, most challenging and daunting task, and do it first. After that, everything else seems easy! In the same fashion, there are things we will go through in this life that are extremely difficult, even devastating. After getting through it, going through the pain, learning, suffering, and healing, everything else we experience in life that may be considered difficult may seem easy to us. We can choose to be grateful for our comforts. We can also remember to be grateful for the adversity, the difficulties, the trials, and the challenges.

Today I will make a mental or written list of all the things in my life that make my life more comfortable and I will be grateful for each one. I will also make a list of things that make me uncomfortable, scared, or even a little fearful when I think about doing them. I will begin doing those things immediately. One thing at a time, one small bite at a time, I will chip away at the uncomfortable and push myself into the growth, improvement, and expansion that awaits me.

Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.

May 23, 2018May 23, 2024

May 23: We Create The Moments That Make Us

Each moment makes us. In the duration of a moment we make choices. With each interaction and reaction with all that is, results are produced directly corresponding to the quality of our actions. Each moment and each choice will shape us, create us, and form us into who we are. The WHO we identify as while in these bodies for this brief, human experience is a result of OUR choices.

Each day is filled with countless possibilities and endless choices. LIMITLESS are the potential outcomes and end results, all determined and dictated by us. To a certain extent, WE are in control of our outcomes, if we choose to take FULL responsibility for ALL of it, and continuously, consistently do our very best.

ALL things come THROUGH us, not to us.

Every moment matters. Or not. The choice is ours.

All of the countless, endless choices we decide upon, or don’t, create the eventual, residual reality we live in. Results don’t lie. We know if the choices we are making are good for us, or not good for us, by the direct consequences or results related to those choices and how we choose to interpret and define it all. Sometimes this feedback is immediate. Other times, the feedback isn’t produced for YEARS. Either way, it is all for our greater good and benefit. It was simply the way this construct was designed.

EVERYTHING happening TO us is actually happening FOR US.

THE UNIVERSE AND EVERYTHING IN IT WAS DESIGNED FROM THE BEGINNING TO CONSPIRE ON OUR BEHALF.

We also know if the choices we are making are good for us, or not good for us, by the direct consequences others have experienced. There is wisdom in learning from the experiences from others. It saves time and energy, getting us to the desired end results much more quickly.

Success leaves clues. So does failure.

“A stupid man never learns. A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.”

Admittedly, I spent most of my life being stupid. In my forties (Yes, I’m a late bloomer), I started getting smart. Finally. In my late-forties, and now my fifties, I have started working on becoming wise, by asking questions and seeking out the answers from those who are EXPERIENCED in that which I am interested in expanding INTO, and being more of.

Each of us can always do something better for ourselves, or a little differently, which we know, or at least can guess, will result in more effective, enjoyable, improved, more optimal consequences.

One small, seemingly meaningless change, completed daily for years, can alter the course and trajectory of our life FOREVER.

Today I will remember that each moment that passes is an opportunity for me to create the person I want to expand into and enjoy more of the life I want to live. Every moment matters, and is meaningful, as long as I am present within that moment.

Nobody teaches presence in the moment, quite like Eckhart Tolle, in his book, THE POWER OF NOW, as well as in his other phenomenal book, A NEW EARTH.

Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.

May 21, 2018May 21, 2024

May 21: Be Decisive

Tony Robbins tells a story about a General he knows. The general was a great example in decisiveness. Tony asked him one time how he acquired this skill, and so the General told him a story.

When the General was a young man he worked for another General. For a period of five years the military was going back and forth between two decisions on how to most effectively train new troops. Both sides had loads of data pointing to the fact that one way was better than the other. There were meetings every week for those five years leading to discussions and arguments, and more than just a little frustration.

Finally, the General sat down with representatives from both sides, listened to what they had to say, and upon hearing both sides, for only forty minutes, he chose! “Do that one!”

In the military, when a General has spoken, orders are taken and carried out. There is no more discussion. Confused and curious, this young man later went to the General and asked him: “Sir, with all of the data collected, and having only heard about 40 minutes of it from either side, how could you know if you were making the right decision?”

The General quickly replied: “I didn’t! I simply made a decision. If I made the correct decision we will quickly know it because of the progress we will soon experience. If I made the incorrect decision we will quickly know it because the program will fail, and then we can quickly fix it! Either way, it’s better than sitting on the fence for another 5 years!”

Sometimes we get caught up in “over-thinking.” We don’t need to exhaust all avenues of research. Most of us know immediately because of intuition, experience, knowledge, or even good advice from those smarter or more experienced than us, what the outcome of any given decision will be.

Sometimes we think that sitting on the fence is just more attractive and less painful than taking action. We are ALWAYS, either growing or shrinking, expanding or contracting, progressing or regressing.

Actions speak louder than words. It’s time to take action.

Be decisive.

Take action.

RESULTS DON’T LIE, AND THEY GIVE IMMEDIATE FEEDBACK, INFORMATION, AND DATA, OFFERING US UP THE OPPORTUNITY TO RE-CALIBRATE, PIVOT, ADAPT, ADJUST, AND TRY SOMETHING ELSE.

ALWAYS BE UPGRADING

Today I will reflect within, recognize anything I have been, “sitting on the fence” about, and decide what action to take. I already know that taking ANY action will be good for me. Today I will take action, in order to receive data and feedback, and improve the results.

Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.

May 19, 2018January 15, 2019

Kieth Nielsen

Q: Can I get an outline of your Life? A: Mom was raised in Plainfield Wisconsin on a farm. Dad grew up on a Farm in South Beloit. Dad is a Veteran; Mom was a seamstress, and an accountant. Dad was a White Collar worker for Rockwell Int. Goss Div. We were raised in Winnebago where I was always bullied on a daily basis by teachers and students. I hated school it was more like being in prison. There were teachers that were not on my side which made it impossible for me to learn, I can name them too.

Q: What is my Current age? A: 53, April 22 1965,
Q: Where have I lived? A: Winnebago, Rockford , Joliet, Menard, Dixon, Galesburg Illinois, Newport news Va. St. Mary’s Ga.
Q: What were the most important things you learned during your childhood and earlier years that helped you later in life?
A: In the early years we traveled all over the country in the late 60’s till around 1974 when we started to square dance and travel all over the country square dancing, I’ve danced with 100,000 people on the same dance floor.
Q: What were some of the challenges or disabilities you experienced and what did you gain or benefit or lose from living through these?
A: When I started Drinking and drugging at the young age of 13, I shifted away from the family and lost interest in school and anything else and that started the downward spiral that got me into the Motorcycle Accident that should have taken my life. Still in the spiral after the accident I kept following the wrong people that I made the wrong decision to do a burglary that turned into a Capitol Murder that would led me to the change of life by lifers and the memories that those that are never getting out. I’ve been and seen more Violence in my life that has really showed me that most people out here will do what they have to do to support their own. They will only leave you out to dry and that’s why I no longer go and party like I used to.
Q: What were your biggest failures/ mistakes in life, and what did you learn from them?
A: Following others trusting people to not screw you over, expecting others to take the responsibility for their own actions.
Q: Where is your favorite place you have ever been and why?
A: I really enjoy going to the Farm that I help on, why so peaceful, quiet, have Empathic feeling bothers me anymore to live in the city.
Q: What is my Educational Background? I have a High school Diploma that I got in March of 1999, I also watch a lot of informational TV shows, and I love Scuba Diving and know about using Mixed Gas.
Q: What Jobs have I had?
A: Security, Armed Security, Back stage Security, Safety and Sanitation, Floor Care, Stock and Inventory, Shipping and Receiving, Professional Painter (Homes) Home Repair.
Q: All were great but Floor care was the best because I worked by myself and could get a pat on the back for my cleaning a Building that makes a difference in my attitude in life and work making others see that I can learn.
Q: When you feel Frustrated, angry, out of control, what do you do to quickly and effectively return to your baseline emotion?
A: There are many ways that I relax, I play video Games either by myself or listen to music on you tube, visit with friends that I know are not only out for their selves.
Q: What is a long –lasting, sustainable contribution you would make that lasts long after you are gone, and who do you want it to affect?
A: To survive and be responsible for your own actions in life because most run from what they do.
Q: What are your principle and core beliefs that you have based your decisions and your life upon?
A: I know that I have had many close calls in my life that’s why I was running with the wrong crowd and getting into trouble every time.
Q: Are there any that you have changed over the years?
A: I learned to not trust those that do not live their lives right. I learned that when the money is gone that Friends are gone too.
Q: What are your Favorite Quotes and Why?
1 Really, 2 Why, and 3 did you learn anything. A realist I have little sympathy for those that do stupid stuff and go to jail. I’ve been out 19 years. Really it does not seem like it’s been that many years ago. I’m not liked by most of my own classmates and they all know I was just present, just to walk into a room and be able to feel the hate that is for you is hurtful.
I have no favorite books but I’ve met some that are famous people that their stories in life have brought me to where I am at now. Roseanne Cash, Murph the Surf, Johnny Cash, Merle Haggard, and Benjamin Newell (Pistol Pete) my Guitar teacher. Rosemary Collins, Judge (ex-Attorney) Craig Thompson and many of my Family that have now passed.
Q: Who or what has been the biggest, most helpful contributor to your life?
A: Phyllis Jensen has been the biggest supporter and has been the only one that has been there at my lowest point. 18 years of the 19 years I have been free. Nothing has changed in the last 19 years still feel as if I’m serving more than I should have to. This is no way to live a life.
Q: What is the purpose of My Life?
A: My purpose is to help others as I try to help myself to find peace in my life, Show others that you can survive whatever you put your mind to, nothing is impossible.
Q: What is my wish or desire for those in my life?
A: Live only one day at a time if it’s meant to happen it will.

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May 19, 2018January 15, 2019

Bruno Schuyten

Bruno is a Former Chef and Culinary Instructor from Liège, Belgium. He now lives in and is self-employed in Shenzhen, Guangdong, China. He was born July 30, 1987 and speaks Mandarin Chinese, English, and French. His website is http://www.toltecvape.com/ and his Facebook page is at http://facebook.com/bruno.schuyten

His Chef Bruno the ŌYL NERD Facebook page can be found at:

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Bruno’s Interview:

Can I get an outline of your life? (A brief history of your family of origin, where and how you grew up, what your mother and father and siblings were like.)

I was born in 1987. I grew up in Belgium with a family of 7 children and two loving but pretty absent parents.

What is your current age? What year were you born and where have you lived?

I am 30 year old. I have lived in many different European countries and and am now living in China.

What were the most important things you learned during your childhood and earlier years that helped you later in life?

Living with 6 siblings I’ve learned that everybody deserve a share of whatever you have as well. Space is needed, mental space especially, so where i grew up we had a forest and I was needing to resource myself by taking walks in the woods.

What were some challenges or disabilities you experienced and what did you gain or benefit from living with and through these?

Coming from the big family we did not have much money so it was a disability, which taught me very early in life that if I wanted anything I had to work for it.

Depression was one of my biggest challenges after the death of my little brother, mother, and father. It had been super hard to overcome. I did so through helping somebody who at the time I ended up homeless through self medication using drugs and alcohol and wrong decisions he also was homeless but not through choices that he made. His only choice was being executed for being a deserter or immigrating illegally in a city. This person, while listening to my story, was really compassionate, which lead me to realize that through listening to his story of war I could put myself in that situation and realize I had made those choices so I could make better choices from then on in order to change my life.

What were your biggest failures/mistakes in life, and what did you learn from them?

My biggest failure or mistakes were to think people were against me or even thinking that whatever people do is for or against me, when what I realized later, and I learned from that, is that everyone lives for themselves and I should not expect anything from anyone. If I do not like a situation I need first to change the way I look at it.

As well as having chosen to go for self medication and succombed to the addiction rather than taking ownership and deciding to make the right choice, though it lead me to discover myself and my purpose.

Where is your favorite place you have ever been and why?

I have been in many places. It’s hard to decide which one is my favorite forever though I do think I really love the Philippines for the simple reason that they have a natural sense of hospitality. They can make you feel part of the family without even knowing you much.

As well as inside myself, surf opened the door to meditation for me and DMT has given me the most insight on why I was doing the wrong choices and revealed to me that I wanted to live a life more meaningful.

What is your educational background?

I am a trained and certified chef as well as a manager and owner of businesses through certification and study.

What jobs/employment have you had? Which was the most fulfilling and why?

I have work in every position possible in a hospital, from cleaning dishes to being a chef. I have been a manager, I am now a business owner, leader and influencer in the health and wellness industry, which I love the most for the reason that everyday I have the chance to wake up and ask myself, “who can I help today?”

When you feel frustrated, angry, or out of control, what do you do to quickly and effectively return to your baseline emotion? (How do you, “Self-soothe”?)

I have learned through Tom Bilyeu how to master my reaction in very short time through making extremely powerful exercises which make your heartbeat at its fastest and as soon as you’re done working out sitting and breathing which gives me the capacity to now, as soon as I get triggered or rather as soon as I realized I get triggered, I can take a long and deep breath through my nose and completely change the way I feel within seconds.

What is a long-lasting, sustainable contribution you would like to make that lasts long after you are gone, and who do you want it to affect?

I am working and building a massive community of humanitarian health minded entrepreneurs who dedicate their lives to helping others through learning how to live healthily, through natural solutions, and it’s through education I empower most people who, like me before, did not know or do not know how to effectively and simply live a healthy lifestyle, naturally.

What are the principles and core beliefs you base your decisions and your life upon? Are there any principles or core beliefs that you altered/improved over the years, as you grew, progressed, and improved? (Old beliefs that didn’t serve you/were harmful vs. New beliefs which benefited you and those around you a great deal.)

I used to believe that your intelligence was predestined from your birth and childhood, as well as your social status, mindset and chance in life. Through reading The Fifth Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz and Think and Grow Rich from Napoleon hill, and having changed my circle of influence (a.k.a. my second and third moms as well as listening to influencers and taking them as mentor like Elon Musk, Peter Diamandis, Peter J. Voogd and, of course, Tom Bilyeu) which fed my mind with a growth mindset, it made me realize that genetics plays a very short role when in the contrary what you put in your brain, in your lungs and in your gut, is where you have real control over your genes as your genes would adapt to it and bend to your will, though it takes a lot of effort!

What are your favorite 3 quotes and why?

There is no try, do or do not! I love this quote because if you got in mind that you are just going to try you’re most certainly destined to fail you. Either do it full on or you don’t waste your time.

You are what you dwell on! I love this quote because what is in your mind is what you become.

Making money is like an orgasm: If you focus on it you will never get it so you better enjoy the process! It says it all.

A bonus one: Ōwn Your Life with Nutrition Exercise Rest and Detox. ŌYL NERD.

Do you have a book list of your favorite, most helpful books? What are the books on your list and what were the most important points from each one?

My book list would be too long though my number one recommendation would be The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. It has taught me to focus on incrementing every little positive thing that I can, instead of hoping to accomplish the big dream very fast. I am into doing every single little decision a bit more positively in my life.

Other than that I recommended to read a book every day. I personally am at a pace of a book in 2 weeks. I read every day between 15 to 30 minutes.

Who were the most important influential people in your life so far? Who do you consider your mentors? (This can be someone in your life or someone you have never met.)

My parents were the number one. One of my older brothers always guided me pretty well (thanks David). I have also someone I call my second mother who has guided me in some of my toughest time after the loss of my father (thank you Monique) and if I can say my third mother who put her hand out when I most needed it and she guided me through self development and she painted the vision when I most needed it (thanks a million time Victoria). Other than that Tom Bilyeu whom I consider like a real mentor even though I Never met him and I love following Peter Diamandis-a massive inspiration, as well as Elon Musk.

Who or what has been the biggest, most helpful contributors to your life?

Essential oils, especially doTERRA, the community that we have and that we are building. Just to think that a small bottle of essential oil can help so many people in so many ways from the farmer to the customer, and for myself because it has helped me overcome every one of my addictions, through replacing every ritual caused by a trigger, by using one essential oil that helps me reflect on what I need to do to get rid of those destructive mechanisms.

Is there anything I have not asked you that you would like to share that you believe could benefit others?

No matter how bad life can get remember that someone else has it worse than you out there so go out and help someone it will change the way you feel.

What do you believe is the purpose of your life?

I do believe that my purpose in life is to use all the trauma in my life and to use them as an opportunity to change the world through helping others by using my story, my pains, my time, my energy and my emotions to help and empower people through learning from my experiences and giving them a vehicle that they can use to own their life.

What is your main wish/desire for the loved ones in your life?

I wish and desire that everyone I love can access their true potential through learning and that they overcome their fear without having to go through all of the pain that I had.

Are there any questions in this interview you would re-word or are there any questions you would add to this interview to make it more helpful and effective?

I think it sums it up pretty good already, maybe the readers might have a different opinion. If so, please leave it in the comment section so that we can help Pete improve this awesome website.

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May 19, 2018May 19, 2025

May 19: You Are More Capable Than You Think

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the thoughts and fears in our heads that we don’t or can’t take action. “Get in your head and you’re dead,” as Tony Robbins puts it.

Humans are amazing. We have the potential to accomplish and to do so much! Look at all of the amazing feats performed by some of the people you admire most. How did they get that good? How did they accomplish so much? Ask any of them, and they will tell you that they started small. They didn’t accomplish that amazing feat “all of a sudden.” It wasn’t a huge leap in capabilities and talent that led them to their success, but rather, small, consistent steps, gradually taken over time.

It was, in many cases, years of hard work and practice. When they began, THEY didn’t think they were even capable of such feats and success! As they took one small step at a time, their confidence grew. They gained credibility with themselves and others. They gradually became stronger. Their capabilities increased. The hard work and practice almost became a fun game as they accomplished more and more than they ever thought they were capable of! They stopped listening to the naysayers and started focusing on the task at hand.

I LOVE when people break through barriers and show us all what is possible. In 1954, Roger Bannister broke the 4-minute mile. That same year, because people realized it was POSSIBLE, more than 20 other people did the same! It had never been done before, but Roger Bannister redefined what was possible, and others followed suit.

Reminder to self: You are more capable than you think. One small action will get the snowball rolling down the hill until it becomes a huge, unstoppable, dangerous force.

MOMENTUM MATTERS.

One step in the right direction can and will change you forever for the better, if you choose to let it.

Today I will remember that I am capable of great things, and remember that even if it takes me decades, I am capable of accomplishing any dream.

Remember: Mindset matters. Character counts. That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives. WE CREATE our personal realities.