Reminder to self:
We all compare ourselves with others at one time or another. Sometimes we compare ourselves to others to try to measure our progress in some way. Other times, we compare ourselves to someone who we judge to be not as advanced in life or work or love as we consider ourselves to be, thinking it will make us feel better about ourselves. That is one reason some of us may judge others, or speak of them at all, in an either negative or positive light. We use comparing, judgement, and criticism, to cause the result of a feeling within us.
I think that many of us think others should be just like us. It’s the reason we argue or discuss things. We want to win other people over to our way of thinking, behaving, and living. Many times, when people are different in some way that we cannot accept, we don’t allow them into our tribe, or we kick them out of our tribe entirely and disown them, just for being different, or even simply wanting to be different, when in THEIR mind, they are beginning to change, improve, evolve, expand, and grow. We are all just doing our best.
The fact is, I think we are all incredibly and beautifully unique as individuals. We are meant to be different. We were never created to be the same.
There will never be anyone in this world, ever, exactly like you. You are an original. You are beautiful and perfect just the way you are, for today, and you can do and be even better.
I think that the best thing any of us can do is compare ourselves to the person we were yesterday. Are we a better person, or better at a skill in some way, than we were yesterday? Yes? Then we are headed in the right direction. We can consistently keep doing what we are doing and keep improving.
Improvement equals progress. Progress equals happiness.
Are we a better person than we were yesterday? No? Then we can change something we are doing in order to start moving us in another direction.
I love this quote:
“You are responsible for your happiness. In fact, you create it. You attract it. You manifest it. You are the architect of your reality. You choose your thoughts, your perceptions, and your reaction to external forces. You possess all of the tools needed to expand your awareness, to orchestrate the evolution of your consciousness, to choose happiness, to choose love. You are that powerful. Create the life you deserve. Vibrate love.”
Comparing ourselves to others can create a situation in which we focus on the success and wealth of others, shedding a light on our lack. This may contribute to the fear-based belief that we reside in a Universe full of lack, rather than a much more useful and empowering belief of light and love, which is that
WE RESIDE IN A UNIVERSE OF LIMITLESS ABUNDANCE.
Comparing ourselves to OURSELVES can motivate us with the desire to want to acquire more, and may create within us the drive to do more and to be better.
Today’s challenge for myself: Today I will compare myself to who I was yesterday. If I’m a better person than I was yesterday I will keep doing what I am doing. If not, I will make a change. Instead of focusing on comparing myself and my “successes” to others and their “failures” for a source of my self esteem, I will focus on comparing myself to me, every day.
One of the most useful tools I have come across in creating a life of extreme abundance in ALL area of life is a book by Jim Rohn, entitled, SEVEN STRATEGIES FOR WEALTH AND HAPPINESS. In it are contained some of the best suggestions I have ever come across. I highly recommend listening to this book, or reading it, and making a study of it.
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