I learned LONG ago that children don’t learn by listening to what we SAY. They learn how to BE by WATCHING WHAT WE DO, then they usually mirror those behaviors.
When we are the kind of person that does what they say they are going to do, good things happen. We build up credibility with ourselves and others. We become trustworthy, predictable, and dependable. Whether we like it or not, realize it or not, and want it or not, everyone watches to see if we will do what we say we are going to do. WE, especially, pay attention to whether or not we will do what we say. Our self image is strengthened and weakened by the promises we DO or DON’T keep.
It is through consistency that we become predictable, reliable, and dependable.
CONSISTENCY CREATES A CONVERSION AND A CONVERGENCE OF CIRCUMSTANCES THAT WILL STIMULATE SYNCHRONICITIES, RESULTING IN AN ALIGNMENT WITH THE PRACTICES AND HABITS WE EXECUTE AND A BEAUTIFUL LIFE OF LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, BEAUTY, PROSPERITY, SAFETY, COMFORT, AND STRENGTH, DEPENDING UPON OUR CURRENT PRACTICES AND HABITS.
Some watch and see to find an opportunity to criticize us or put us down: “See! I told you that you wouldn’t do it!”
Others look to us for motivation or inspiration: “Wow-that was great. Good job! Well, if you/he/she can do it, so can I!”
Others look to us as an example, or we look to others as an example: “That’s cool. That is how I want to try being, so I can have similar results, outcomes, and experiences.”
The most important people watching us to see if we are going to do what we say we are going to do is ourselves. Why?
When we don’t do what we say we are going to do, it is a small, personally-perceived failure. That inner voice acts like the group that would criticize us or put us down: “See! I told you that you wouldn’t do it! You are such a loser! You never do what you say you are going to do! You might as well stop doing what you say you are going to do, altogether! Everyone would be better off without you around!” It is destructive. It is counter-productive. It harms our spirit, our soul, our ego, our life energy, our confidence, and our will power. It takes the wind out of our sails and provides the false belief that we can’t, that we aren’t good, and that we aren’t ENOUGH, just the way we are. It creates a negative, weakened, destroyed, and broken, false self-image, and a set of negative beliefs and perspectives about ourselves. It erodes and destroys our self confidence, disempowering our creative process and depleting us of necessary energy and desire to create something even better.
On the other hand, when we do what we say we are going to do, it is a small success. These small successes STACK UP. All these smaller successes compile, joining energetic forces that can only result in an optimized set of life experiences. We continuously build credibility with ourselves. That inner voice acts like the group that would look to us for motivation or inspiration: “Wow-that was great. Good job! Now that you have done it this one more time, I know you can do it again! You are strong. You are amazing. You are a great example to yourself and others, of what success is and what it looks like! Keep it up!” It is creative. It is productive. It is energizing. It builds up and strengthens our spirit, our soul, our ego, our life energy, our confidence, and our will power. It adds wind to our sails, empowering us with more and more momentum, motivates and inspires us from within, and provides the true belief that we can, and that we are capable. We earn even more self confidence. It creates a positive, helpful image and a set of positive, strengthening beliefs about ourselves.
Most importantly, children watch us. The little ones who need to learn from us are watching-especially when we least expect it. They look to see how WE handle judgements and criticisms. They observe us to see how WE handle stress, anxiety, depression, and difficult challenges. They look to see how to BE in this world through the examples of the people they are around the most-ESPECIALLY the people in their lives who they depend upon n for the MOST important things like safety, survival, love, compassion, kindness, validation, empathy, understanding, acceptance, and forgiveness.
It is useful to do what we say we are going to do. We can choose to practice what we preach.
Which bucket are you going to work on filling today? The I can bucket, or the I can’t bucket? What are you going to create, perpetuate, and energize today, with your energy, time, attention, and focus? What will you choose to project out into the world and thereby render your reality?
Today’s challenge for myself: Today, I will do everything in my power to practice what I preach and do what I say I am going to do.
*When our self-respect is low, our character is weak. Bad thinking will then lead to bad moods and bad decisions. Bad decisions will erode our self-confidence and lower our self-respect, depleting our energy and resulting in even more horrible moods. It is a never-ending cycle, until we decide to break it.
For helpful tools on how to gain self-confidence and build credibility with yourself, see The goodinthehead Habit-Hacking Challenge. Also, see the Ted talk given by Dr. Joe Dispenza.
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