If we have a problem, it is really useful to deal with it as soon as possible. Better to shed light on the problem, deal with it, be done with it, and be able to focus more clearly on what we need and want to, than to not deal with it, let the problem take focus away from what is important, and rule our emotions.
Repressing emotions and not dealing with irritants is the same as having an infection that festers and progressively gets more painful as we ignore it.
When dealing with other people, I found it is best for me to go straight to the source. If we heard something from someone about someone else, chances are we don’t know the entire story, and neither did the person telling us the story. Maybe we heard the words coming out of the person’s mouth but are misunderstanding the meaning behind it. It’s easy to ask, “Hey, I heard you say this, but is that really what you meant? It’s been making me feel____________ (Insert the most accurate description for how you are feeling). I don’t want to feel like that anymore and I don’t want to seem confrontational. It has been bothering me enough to take away focus from what I need to focus on, so it’s important. I really want to know.”
This may be extremely difficult and uncomfortable at first, but practicing this until it is a habit EMPOWERS us, and allows us the opportunity to practice immediately letting go of unwanted emotions.
If we go to the person, being sincere and behaving in a non-confrontational way, we have done what we can. Now the rest is up to them. The ball is in their court. The next move is their decision, and the one thing we can’t control is how they react. It may be a positive reaction, or a negative one, but once we shine light on the problem, it is easier to resolve it, clarify things, work through things, and move on. We can then focus on what we need and want to.
Focus matters. That which we focus on, we become. We create MORE of what we are thinking about, whether we want it or not.
WE FEED WHAT WE FOCUS ON.
Today I will shine light on a problem that has been bothering me or taking focus away from more important things, with the intention of healing, working through any issues, and refocusing my energy on what is truly important.
Two of the most useful books I have come across regarding healing through the art and practice of LETTING GO, are the books THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO by Melody Beattie, and LETTING GO, THE PATHWAY OF SURRENDER, by Dr. David R. Hawkins.
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