Pain is inevitable. Suffering is a choice. We will all be victimized in this world. Bad things happen to everyone. How long we choose to remain a victim is entirely up to us. Our outer, physical world, and how we program ourselves to interact with it, is created first in our minds.
This excerpt, meant to be read once a year as a reminder, is from the book, THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO, written by Melody Beattie:
We all experience extreme difficulties, stress, and hard times, yet the only way most of us know how to get through them is to cross our fingers and hope for the best!! What if we grew up with certain beliefs and tools to get through them with grace, strength, courage, and hope, KNOWING everything was happening towards our benefit, and for our good? What if the tools and beliefs we were raised with EMPOWERED us to go through ANY hard time or difficult set of circumstances with a positive attitude and a growth mindset?
While experiencing pain and suffering, it is difficult to remain calm, centered, and grounded. We have been programmed from a very young age to REACT in certain ways to pain, suffering, and difficult times-but what if there is a better way? Because of the way that life and the Universe was designed, it is certain that hard times are coming again and again, just as waves return to crash on the shore, and so we will have many other opportunities to come to learn and practice the skill of reprogramming ourselves to deal with these things more effectively and efficiently, then eventually becoming capable of passing the wisdom we have acquired on to others.
There are MANY who have learned to navigate hard times successfully, with ease and grace. We can choose to read their books and learn from their wealth of knowledge and wisdom, whenever we are ready to. We can find people to speak with and ask advice of. It is true that we can’t BE what we can’t see, and if we are able to catch a glimpse of the possibility of wholeness and wellness, even if it is just briefly through the eyes of another, we will know of the limitless possibilities for wellness, wholeness, and comfort that awaits us. To create a space and time each day, filled with quiet contemplation and a daily visualization practice, is to begin the process of creation. That which we see WILL BE, especially when it is ALL we can envision. It is through our minds that we create our physical realities.
Our beliefs, mindsets, personal philosophies, and feelings surrounding loss, grief, pain, and suffering, are the things that will save us or shatter us. All things in the Universe are exactly as they should be, to be perfectly balanced. Everything is going to be okay. Everything that happens to us is actually happening FOR us-for OUR good, and for the good of others. If things are difficult now, know and remember that everything is going to be okay.
Not to self: I’m sorry you are hurting. I’m sorry you are in pain. Only YOU have the power to save yourself from these things, and it is so much easier when doing it WITH, THROUGH, or BY someone else who has already gone through it. Whatever you are going through, and GROWING through, someone else has had a similar experience to yours-you are not alone. One thing that connects us all is PAIN. Another thing which connects us all is who we are and where we came from. We are not these bodies. We are a piece of Eternal Light. We are a Glorious, PERFECT Spec of The Divine, removed temporarily from The Source of all and placed, temporarily, into this physical, outer shell.
Reminder to self: Remember who you are and where you are TRULY from. Go deep within. Draw upon the powers of the divine and focus on wholeness. The body may break, get damaged, rot, and die, but we will live on forever…
TO FOCUS ON HEALING IS TO FOCUS ON LACK-THE LACK OF WELLNESS AND WHOLENESS. INSTEAD, FOCUS ON WELLNESS, WELL-BEING, HEALTH, and WHOLENESS. HEAL FROM A PLACE OF ABUNDANCE.
There is a definite MIND, BODY, SOUL connection.
Neuro: Referring to the mind or brain, particularly regarding how states of mind (and body) affect communication and behavior. NLP teaches a structural way of viewing mind and body states, developing mental maps that show how things happen and how to change course.
Linguistic: Meaning that our mind and body states are revealed in our language and non-verbal communication. Language is the tool we use to gain access to the inner workings of the mind. Neuro-linguistic programming language patterns teach us how to access unconscious information that would remain vague and unknowable otherwise.
Programming: This refers to the capacity to change our mind and body states. You’ve heard the term living on autopilot, right? To someone trained in NLP, this would mean that you are living according to your programming, which consists of habitual thoughts, feelings, reactions, beliefs, and traditions. Someone trained in neuro-linguistic programming knows how such programs are structured in the mind and how to access them through conversation (language) so that outdated programs and autopilot behaviors can be changed.