FOR WHEN YOU ARE HURTING-Getting through hard times.

Pain is inevitable.  Suffering is a choice.  We will all be victimized in this world.  Bad things happen to everyone.  How long we choose to remain a victim is entirely up to us.  Our outer, physical world, and how we program ourselves to interact with it, is created first in our minds.

This excerpt, meant to be read once a year as a reminder, is from the book, THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO, written by Melody Beattie:


We all experience extreme difficulties, stress, and hard times, yet the only way most of us know how to get through them is to cross our fingers and hope for the best!!  What if we grew up with certain beliefs and tools to get through them with grace, strength, courage, and hope, KNOWING everything was happening towards our benefit, and for our good?  What if the tools and beliefs we were raised with EMPOWERED us to go through ANY hard time or difficult set of circumstances with a positive attitude and a growth mindset?

While experiencing pain and suffering, it is difficult to remain calm, centered, and grounded.  We have been programmed from a very young age to REACT in certain ways to pain, suffering, and difficult times-but what if there is a better way?  Because of the way that life and the Universe was designed, it is certain that hard times are coming again and again, just as waves return to crash on the shore, and so we will have many other opportunities to come to learn and practice the skill of reprogramming ourselves to deal with these things more effectively and efficiently, then eventually becoming capable of passing the wisdom we have acquired on to others.

There are MANY who have learned to navigate hard times successfully, with ease and grace.  We can choose to read their books and learn from their wealth of knowledge and wisdom, whenever we are ready to.  We can find people to speak with and ask advice of. It is true that we can’t BE what we can’t see, and if we are able to catch a glimpse of the possibility of wholeness and wellness, even if it is just briefly through the eyes of another, we will know of the limitless possibilities for wellness, wholeness, and comfort that awaits us.  To create a space and time each day, filled with quiet contemplation and a daily visualization practice, is to begin the process of creation.  That which we see WILL BE, especially when it is ALL we can envision.  It is through our minds that we create our physical realities.

Our beliefs, mindsets, personal philosophies, and feelings surrounding loss, grief, pain, and suffering, are the things that will save us or shatter us.   All things in the Universe are exactly as they should be, to be perfectly balanced.  Everything is going to be okay.  Everything that happens to us is actually happening FOR us-for OUR good, and for the good of others.  If things are difficult now, know and remember that everything is going to be okay.

Not to self:  I’m sorry you are hurting.  I’m sorry you are in pain.  Only YOU have the power to save yourself from these things, and it is so much easier when doing it WITH, THROUGH, or BY someone else who has already gone through it.  Whatever you are going through, and GROWING through, someone else has had a similar experience to yours-you are not alone.  One thing that connects us all is PAIN. Another thing which connects us all is who we are and where we came from.  We are not these bodies.  We are a piece of Eternal Light.  We are a Glorious, PERFECT Spec of The Divine, removed temporarily from The Source of all and placed, temporarily, into this physical, outer shell.

Reminder to self:  Remember who you are and where you are TRULY from.  Go deep within.  Draw upon the powers of the divine and focus on wholeness.  The body may break, get damaged, rot, and die, but we will live on forever…


There is a definite MIND, BODY, SOUL connection.

Everything starts with consciousness and awareness, when the seed is planted into the physical body, and we are born into this world.  We then begin downloading information from everyone, and everything, in order to survive the younger years.  The quality of this information eventually manifests itself in the physical realm, and becomes the quality of our life experience, or our version of our reality.
The MIND uses hundreds and thousands of chemicals and hormones to tell the body how to react to every perceived situation, in order to survive, then later, in order to thrive.  The consciousness, or divine seed, is the programmer.  That is who we TRULY are.  The mind (brain, chemicals, hormones) is the program being run.  As we, being the programmer, level up our skills, through acquisition of experiences, knowledge, and wisdom, and through practicing what we learn and experimenting with it all, we are then able to learn new programming languages, which creates a much more effective, useful, progressive, consistently evolutionary set of results.  We are able to create MORE.  More abundance, more health, more financial freedom, more highly evolved relationships with ourselves and others, more spirituality, more possibilities, and more of ANYTHING WE CHOOSE, in EVERY area of our existence!
The secret to it all, lies in this statement:  “We become what we think about.”
This PHYSICAL experience is finite.  The clock is ticking, and one day our physical reality in this world will end.  This begs the question:  What EXACTLY do I want to create and enjoy throughout the rest of this physical existence?  The answer to this gives us the EXACT programs we need to run, install, and repeatedly, consistently focus on, for the majority of our days and nights.
Once we get the MIND right, everything else falls into place.  We are able to program the mind to react and respond ONLY in the ways we want it to.  Those chemicals, hormones, and feelings which are automatically produced because of repetition and habit, then run the body to behave in a way that is in alignment with what we want MORE of.
The body is an incredible computer, consisting of bio-genetic hardware, designed to interface with anything and everything we can possibly imagine interfacing it with.
Soon, we have learned the proper, PERSONAL, recipe for constant, consistent growth, improvement, and personal development, using the MIND/BODY connection as a the tools they were always meant to be.
(Remember that we are all unique individuals, and what works for one of us may not work for all of us-hence the importance of experimentation with experiences, which will produce ONLY the chemicals, hormones, feelings, and habitual emotional and physical reactions we want to experience.)
We use self-care practices like meditation, visualization, using the I AM creation exercise, a consistent morning routine, journaling, breathing exercises, stretching, yoga, cardiovascular exercises, proper diet and nutrition, and so many others, to create an environment on the INSIDE of us which will soon be mirrored and manifested on the OUTSIDE.
When the MIND/BODY connection is optimized (for which there are no limits), the third part of the MIND, BODY, SOUL connection comes into play:  The SOUL.
When this incredible, divine seed that was planted within this physical body is remembered, recognized, realized, and given what it needs to continuously and consistently express itself in its truest, most creative form, our purpose is then realized.  This physical mind and body is a garden for our soul.  Given the proper amounts of sunlight, nutrition, water, love, and attention, it blossoms and grows!
How we do anything is how we do everything.
There is a practice, or a tool, that can be used by us to reprogram our minds and bodies, in order to allow the soul to realize its true purpose while still in THIS life:  NLP, or Nuero-Linguistic Programming, is a highly effective tool that ANYONE can learn to use and practice.  It is like saving up for the high-end, super expensive software, developed by the incredibly wealthy, for the incredibly wealthy, and installing it on your newly-upgraded computer.
Here is how it was explained to me, so far:

Neuro: Referring to the mind or brain, particularly regarding how states of mind (and body) affect communication and behavior. NLP teaches a structural way of viewing mind and body states, developing mental maps that show how things happen and how to change course.

Linguistic: Meaning that our mind and body states are revealed in our language and non-verbal communication. Language is the tool we use to gain access to the inner workings of the mind. Neuro-linguistic programming language patterns teach us how to access unconscious information that would remain vague and unknowable otherwise.

Programming: This refers to the capacity to change our mind and body states. You’ve heard the term living on autopilot, right? To someone trained in NLP, this would mean that you are living according to your programming, which consists of habitual thoughts, feelings, reactions, beliefs, and traditions. Someone trained in neuro-linguistic programming knows how such programs are structured in the mind and how to access them through conversation (language) so that outdated programs and autopilot behaviors can be changed.

Check into it.  I believe it is possible to be used as a tool to protect our energy.  As I learn more, I will share more, and I will include specific examples of how we can use our language, sight, hearing, smelling, and feelings of the body, as AUTOMATED TOOLS to regularly and consistently create the existence we want to experience, while at the same time we are using all of that energy that has been freed up by automating our emotional, mental, chemical, hormonal, and physical responses, to create at a SOUL level.

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