July 6: Ending Suffering

We all know pain and suffering.  For some of us it has become a constant companion in life.  Many of us suffer from anxiety, sadness, depression, hopelessness, or outer, physical ailments.

Suffering constantly changes, and can eventually end through an up-leveling of mindset, beliefs, perspectives, and repetitious, constant, consistency in focus and thinking.

Happiness is simply the absence of unhappiness.  Ending personal suffering has everything to do with the stories we tell ourselves, the WAYS we tell our stories, our consistent choices of focus, and the meanings and definitions we assign to all of it.

We can replace and displace our suffering through focusing NO LONGER on memories of the past painful moments we choose to continuously relive in our minds, and instead redirect ALL of our energy and attention on what we DO want more of in our lives, and then DOING THE WORK NECESSARY to make THAT happen.

EVERYTHING STARTS WITH OUR THOUGHTS.  Thoughts create our feelings.  Our consistent feelings dictate our consistent actions.  Our consistent actions dictate our eventual results and outcomes.  These become our HABITS.  This process repeats itself according to what we choose to focus on, until the day we drop these bodies and leave this human life behind.

The habit of gratitude, first thing in the morning, then periodically throughout the day, allows us to see things progressively more beautifully, over time, until ALL WE CAN SEE is beauty.

WE ARE CREATORS.  We are NOT victims to our feelings.  We are victims of our POOR THINKING HABITS.

It is what we think about things and how we choose to define them, and which meanings we decide to attach to everything, that dictates how we FEEL about things.

The quality of our thinking determines the exact mixtures of chemicals and hormones INSTANTLY injected into our blood stream with each and every thought. Within TWO pumps of the heart, that mixture travels in the blood stream to anywhere from 60,000 to 100,000 MILES of the vascular system throughout our entire body.  The quality of our thinking dictates the quality of how we feel, and HOW WE FEEL IS HOW WE CREATE.

If we HABITUALLY only allow high-quality thinking and only high quality content to occupy the space and energy within us, ONLY healing hormones and chemicals will be created.

Suffering devolves with a change or improvement in perspective, mindset, and action. This is an incredibly effective, helpful strategy.

For YEARS I chose to listen to the inner voice my brain and poor thinking habits resulted in.  Eventually, I adopted the habit of listening to HOURS of content, each and every day, in order to intentionally reprogram my subconscious mind and the inner voice we all have.  It has proven to be a HIGHLY effective strategy.

When my inner voice falls back into old patterns and ways of being, and becomes progressively more critical, judge-mental, unaccepting, or unloving, and I can no longer trust what it is saying, I turn on a podcast or book I have previously selected for just such a moment and drown out the incessant, negative voice within.

I LOVE this useful teaching:

“A person on a mission doesn’t suffer.”

-Ono N Northey

When our focus shifts from the source of our suffering to an important way to contribute, help, and add value to self (personal progress) or others, the suffering subsidies, and eventually disappears.  Having a WHY we get up each day, and a WHY to work incredibly hard, and a WHY or an important PURPOSE to do everything we are doing, can quickly enhance our reasons for living.  Because ENERGY FLOWS WHERE ATTENTION GOES, when we focus upon our BIG REASONS WHY, instead of the source of our pain and suffering-which re-manifests and perpetuates our suffering, which is usually a only memory or a thought, miracles begin to happen.  HEALING occurs.


MY big reasons why, and my purpose that I turned to and focused upon, which kept be from committing murder or suicide during the darkest times of my life, which was a 15-year, pharmaceutical-induced, Doctor-recommended, horribly debilitating, dis-empowering, hopeless time period, were my three sons.

Once I shifted all of my focus from my pain to raising my sons well, and leaving a legacy behind that they would be proud of, I began to have the need and desire to create, instead of destroy.  I no longer had the desire to allow my addiction to my suffering, bitterness, anguish, darkness, victimhood, and self-pity to continue.  I was then empowered to experience an awareness and clarity I needed and wanted all along to create something better for my children, and for the generations to come.

When our purpose becomes learning how to heal ourselves, then empowering those around us to heal themselves, the ripple effects are endless, as EVERYTHING AFFECTS EVERYTHING, AND EVERYONE AFFECTS EVERYONE.

When I stopped taking the medications in 2014 that the Doctors made me to believe I HAD to take, MY BIG REASONS, or my 3 sons, REALLY empowered me to awaken and do more.

When our purpose becomes the empowering of another person, the shift from pain to meaning quickly becomes apparent and obvious. The better off, more healed, and the more filled with love WE are, the more capable we are of contributing to and loving others.

The better we love ourselves, the better we can love others.  The more accepting we are of ourselves, the more capable we become of accepting others.

When we have a purpose GREATER THAN OURSELVES, we cease to wallow in our self-pity,  suffering, and misery.  This purpose can take us out of our minds to thinking and doing things OTHER than misery, self-pity, self-hatred, self-unacceptance, and self-loathing, and then we begin to heal.

Interestingly, it is the source of our very pain and suffering that can point us in the direction of our BIG REASONS WHY.  Once we are able to learn to navigate through our own pain and suffering, we begin to see how needless the suffering was, and we desire to help others to end THEIR suffering and heal, as well, not wanting to see others suffer as we have.  When contributing to others in this way becomes our BIG REASON WHY, or our purpose in life, we start down a path of adding value to self and others that makes us much more valuable, and attractive, in the process.

In a way, being blessed with the knowledge, strength, emotional fortitude, and skills, that comes through and by our pain and suffering, is the Universes way of gifting us with what we NEED (certainly not always what we WANT) in order to KNOW better, DO better, and continuously expanding more into BEING more of what we were ALL ALONG – LOVE.

The more we go through, the more opportunities we have to learn the things that others will need to know of, in order to more successfully and efficiently navigate through this life.

It takes time, consistency, and patience to change things like mindset and perspective.  Daily routines are helpful.  The actions we take will benefit us most.  Our change in mindset and perspective and the knowledge we obtain must be converted into action or it is worthless.


Today I will decide on ways I can change and improve my mindset and perspective.  I will add something to my personal, daily routine, that is easy and effective, that will help me change and improve my mindset and perspective.  

Marisa Peer, and the work she does, has helped IMMENSELY with my own healing process, which is a very personal, individual thing.  I highly recommend putting her name into the YouTube search engine, and consistently listening to her content she has so generously given.

It is HIGHLY likely that NONE of us will EVER suffer as Victor Frankl did, along with his brothers and sisters, in the prison camps of World War II.  To listen to his story, and learn some helpful insights on how to effectively deal with and eliminate suffering from the mind, put these words into the YouTube search engine, or simply buy his book, MAN’S SEARCH FOR MEANING:

Man’s search for meaning audiobook

Another excellent source of how to alleviate suffering comes from the book, SOLVE FOR HAPPINESS, written by Mo Gawdat.  His mind is AMAZING, and the way he shares what he has learned about how to enjoy happiness, rather than experiencing never-ending suffering, is worth diving deeply into and researching.

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Remember:  Mindset matters.  Character counts.  That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives.  WE CREATE our personal realities.

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