September 5: Role Modeling

Jesse Elder described how his father, a teacher in the public school system, didn’t want his own children to attend public schools, and so he home-schooled them.  Inevitably, as part of Jesse’s daily curriculum, there was always a pile of books on the table for Jesse and his siblings to choose from, to read and study from.  Later, Jesse realized that his father had chosen from ONLY what he considered to be the most helpful, deeply contributional and educational books, and put only THOSE on the table.  While giving his children the illusion of freedom and choice, he still only allowed them to read from the highest quality authors, guiding and directing their minds with this highly intelligent practice.

As within, so without.  As above, so below. Trash in, trash out.  What if there is no trash?

PARENTS are the most important role models that young children can have.  It is within the first seven years of a child’s life that they learn the most, while their brains are in theta wavelengths, or in hypnosis mode, and most children will use the beliefs and habits they learned within those first seven years that were subconsciously programmed into their young minds to make every decision they will ever make for the rest of their entire lives.

Tony Robbins talks about modeling a lot.  He explains it as a helpful, useful skill to anyone willing to try it.  When we see results which we like and admire in someone else’s life, and then learn everything we can from that person about their mindset and what they do in order to get those results, we then know what it takes for US to consistently and habitually focus on and do to live the same or a similar lifestyle.  Once we know how they do it, we can ask ourselves if we are willing to do the same things in order to get the same results.  If we want the results badly enough, we will be willing to do anything.


For YEARS, I experienced the extreme contrasts of life. Experiencing darkness made light more attractive. Experiencing poverty made wealth and abundance a bigger desire. Experiencing extreme depression planted the seed of desire deep within my heart to create a life devoid of it.

For me, being happy, healthy, abundant and wealthy in every way became a necessity, in order to be a better father, a more loving husband, and a more valuable man.  I began researching other people out there in the world who are already living the version of the life I want to, and then I hold space for that version of myself in the near future.

To ALWAYS be upgrading and expanding into the highest possible version of self is a magical practice.

I found some commonalities in all of the lives of those I view as always expanding, upgrading, and improving, and began implementing these common traits into a short, easy-to-follow, daily routine.  So far, modeling has worked wonders for me.  Instead of searching for THE truth, I began to seek out what was EFFECTIVE and USEFUL.  My lifestyle improved DRASTICALLY, as my mindset improved, and as I consistently and daily began to practice what has been serving so many others for YEARS, making them incredibly happy, younger, more vibrant, abundant and wealthy in ALL areas of life!  Truth has fallen into place as a natural bi-product of this process, allowing me to realize that the “truth” is subjective, and completely different and always changing and fluctuating for ALL of us.

We all have role models and heroes in our lives.  We all know someone who does well in some area of their lives that we would also like to do well in.  Personal development, relationships, finances, physical health and appearance, education, spiritual enlightenment, work ethic, drive, motivation, emotional intelligence, and social skills, are a few of the areas we can see others succeeding in.  We can succeed in any area we choose to succeed in.  Ever heard, “If I can do it, anyone can do it!”  Others show us what is possible.  Some people show us the impossible is actually possible, as well.

The  more we observe, the more we learn is possible for us.  The more we listen, the more we will hear.

I have never met someone I can’t learn SOMETHING from.  People are amazing!  They never cease to teach me something new, remind me of something valuable I have already learned, or show me what NOT to do and never waste my time with.

We are blessed to live in the information age, where all the knowledge we could ever need is at our fingertips.  We live in a time where it is increasingly easier and easier to learn anything we want to learn about in fun and entertaining ways.

Who are some of YOUR heroes?  Why are they a hero in your mind?  What attributes do you admire in others?  What are some things you see in others’ lives that you want to model or emulate in your own life?  

“Here is the secret to success, and ALSO the secret to failure:  WE BECOME WHAT WE THINK ABOUT.” – Earl Nightingale

Many people are more than willing to share their personal stories, especially when we honestly and sincerely compliment them, ask them what their secret to success has been, and ask them for tips and tricks on how to model and acquire the same or similar successes in our own lives.

Remembering that we are unique individuals as we constantly try to improve, and accepting and loving our self along the way, is vitally important.

It is MAGICAL to be wise enough to say to oneself in the mirror each morning:


Role modeling and acquiring new mindsets, skills, and tools in order to become the best version of our self we possibly can, is an opportunity we are blessed with each day we wake up.  Every day we are alive is another opportunity to improve, progress, grow, expand, upgrade, and recreate ourselves.

We can be anything we want to be.  In everyone’s life, there is always room for improvement.  We can always become more of who we are in human form.  Acquiring skills and tools that have worked for others, experimenting with new experiences, then keeping what works in our favor and discarding what doesn’t, can be an immense help.    

Today I will look at the best, most positive, motivational, and enlightening qualities in people that I admire.  I will research them, and if possible, I will talk to them, about what mindset and actions I can adopt into my own life, in order to improve in ways I want to improve in.

One of the best tools I have come across in researching others has been YouTube podcasts.  IMPACT THEORY, WOMEN OF IMPACT, HEALTH THEORY, THE ED MYLETT SHOW, THE LEWIS HOWES SHOW, THE TIM FERRISS SHOW, LONDON REAL, THE BE HERE NOW NETWORK, THE JAY SHETTY PODCAST, MARK HYMAN MD, JOCKO PODCAST, THE JOE ROGAN PODCAST, PROCTOR GALLAGHER INSTITUTE, and SO many others, are all awaiting discovery.  Each and every one of the guests on these shows are on the show for a good reason.  The hosts have researched each of the people before bringing them on in order to ask specific questions, the answers of which are meant to help everyone willing to listen and learn.  Having an attitude of openness and willingness to hear and try new things is incredibly helpful.  Also, having a small notebook and a pen to immediately write down anything that sparks curiosity, with you all throughout the day, can be a great habit to get into, right from the very start.

These podcasts guests and these shows have all inspired me to begin a podcast show on YouTube, called The goodinthehead Podcast.  Check it out and subscribe to be notified each time a new guest is on the show!

Robin Sharma teaches that, “To read a book is to meditate with the author.”  I have found this to be true for me.  Books are sometimes and entire lifetime of experience compressed into what we get to learn and read within a few days…

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Remember:  Mindset matters.  Character counts.  That which we choose to consistently focus on is what EXPANDS in our lives.  WE CREATE our realities.

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