I think it is useful to remember to be humble. Life will humble us, either way, but we can remember to remain humble. This empowers us with a proper, empowering perspective, and the belief that we still have things to learn, and room to grow.
To identify as a LEARNER is to set ourselves up for continued success. Curiosity keeps us humble and learning.
No matter who we are or what we have accomplished, there is ALWAYS room for improvement.
Together is better. “We” is better than “me.” A team of people, constantly engaged in consistent actions in alignment with the group’s goals can be much more effective than one person, alone.
Sometimes we may forget this and be tempted to let our ego take control of the steering wheel in life and think, “I can do a much better job than this person. I am better and more effective at this job and pretty much anything else in life than any of these people.” We have all worked with people who get together and talk about others and their failures for the simple reason that it makes them feel even better about how awesome, accomplished, and advanced they are. Some of these people even do things to sabotage others around them so that they will look bad, with the end goal in mind of outshining the very ones they are sabotaging.
At this point, such people then think they are outshining those around them. I’ve been guilty of doing this in the past, myself, and strive every day not to be that man ever again.
This is an indication that there are feelings of inadequacy, and that we are, “not enough,” exactly as we are. The belief, NO JUDGMENT, NO CRITICISM, MY BEST IS GOOD ENOUGH AND I AM PERFECT EXACTLY AS I AM-AND I CAN GET EVEN BETTER, is a useful belief to repeat daily until the feelings of inadequacy are gone.
Another great and empowering mantra to repeat daily from a world/renowned therapist that has proven effective for MILLIONS is:
EVERY DAY AND IN EVERY WAY I AM GETTING BETTER SND BETTER.
Comparisons are a recipe for disaster. It is a great way to be hated and despised. It is a great way to create and foster an environment of resentment, jealousy, hatred, and maliciousness. It is a great way to fail, consistently, impeding personal growth and progression, while everyone around you surpasses THEIR OWN best, being busied with practicing besting THEIR best, rather than comparing THEIR best to YOUR worst, in order to feed an insatiable ego.
Don’t be the person who blows out every one else’s candle around them just to APPEAR to shine more brightly than others.
It is important to strive to be our very best, every single day. There is absolutely nothing wrong with comparing ourselves to yesterday’s version of ourselves, but when we compare ourselves to others, we set ourselves up for failure by:
- Thinking we are better than everyone else and alienating everyone and destroying the possibilities of adding value to a team.
- Thinking we are better than everyone else, alienating everyone, destroying trust and respect, thereby creating a situation in which we HAVE to eventually do everything alone.
- Thinking we are so much better than everyone else that we forget to compare ourselves to yesterday’s version of our self and miss out on opportunity for personal growth, which makes us weaker, not better.
- Thinking we are so much better than others that we end up missing out on opportunities to really connect and bond and network with others and enjoy a more fulfilling, deeply meaningful, purpose-filled life.
We become more valuable not only by adding value to ourselves, but by adding value to others, as well.
Today I will remember to be a team player and seek to add value to other’s lives. TEAMWORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK.
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